I need some good advice from someone with experience with this?

Im jewish and my fiance is christian. We decided to raise our kids jewish when we have them, as well as celebrate the jewish holidays in our home. His family is not too happy about this, and if it were the other way around, my family wouldnt be either. We re having a jewish wedding and I dont want to have tension or awkwardness at my wedding. What's the best way to approach the situation before it becomes an issue?I need some good advice from someone with experience with this?
Explain that you are Jewish and therefore according to your religion your children are Jewish also. Sit down and explain what the ceremony will be like and what each part means.





If they wanted their son to have married a Christian they should have indoctrinated him with that trait while bringing him up.I need some good advice from someone with experience with this?
Someone I worked with was Jewish and her husband Christian. They participated in both holidays. They had a wedding ceremony that worked with both religions. And their kids grew up with both religions.


When the kids were old enough to decide for themselves, they did. 2 went with the Jewish faith, one with the Christian. She did not go to Christian services, he did not go to Jewish services - except around important Holidays - then the respected each others.


Marriage is a difficult thing, it is the blending of 2 lives into 1, 2 families into a new one, adding different religions makes it harder. You both have to understand each others backgrounds and find a way to blend them into something that is acceptable to you and your families. Like it our not, his family is now a part of yours and from here on out it will be a constant job blending and understanding.


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Why not let your children know both the Jewish and Christian teachings?


That way they can decide. And you could celebrate both the jewish and christian holidays.


As for your wedding, it should be how you want it.


The best way to approach it is not to sweep it under the rug. Talk about it with everyone. Include his family in your celebrations and explain what your rituals are and be open to learning and celebrating the Christian rituals that they have. Remember, you both have the same Old Testament. As long as you communicate about it all, it shouldn't be a problem. Good luck and congrats.
Lynn, it sounds like you need to learn that marriage (mine has lasted for 28 years) is a series of comprises. I feel that you think that this is only your marriage and in a sense it is , but also remember that his parents will be the grandparents of your children. I realize that your faith is important to you , but theirs is important to them. Try to celebrate all of them to make things easier and keep everyone happy, that is unless you don't care about how his parents feel. I guess that what I am trying to say is to attempt to combine both and get the best of both worlds. Good luck
You two can probably work it out and make it work just fine. Sounds like you all ready have. Pressure from in laws can ruin everything. You both need to tell them that's it's all ready settled and you won't discuss it. Yeah, good luck with that.





I was catholic, she was protestant. My in laws were controlling people. After 19 years they finally convinced their daughter to leave me. She moved in with an unemployed used car salesman!!!??? Left me with 4 girls to raise and all the bills. She maxed all the plastic before she left too.





In the long run she did us a favor. We lived well after she left.





I hope you can do better than this.





Good luck. You have made wise choices, hope the pressure won't get to you.
do both, have a Jewish/christian wedding


celebrate both holidays, that is what my client does.





then the children have the power of knowing both controlling religions %26amp; can choose the lies they want to follow.





this will cancel the b.s. you will have with in-laws on both sides
You are the one that would be creating awkwardness by subscribing to all of the BS stipulations. Hey listen, whatever will be, will be... Love has no religion, embrace both worlds and just be happy. And whomever has a problem with it, too bad. Misery loves company
Why not celebrate both? You should share with your child both of your beliefs. If you are not willing to do that then you have to accept that one of the families will be unhappy.
yah i think that you should just have a normal wedding.


that way both families are equally offended and nobody feels to tense about the other family being more favored.
have an unorthodox wedding and upset everyone equally
you are raising your kids jewish? i say let the kids determine their own faith when they are older
why would they be happy? i mean come on, your people killed the son of God......
try combining things from both of your religions at your wedding
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