I am a diabetic %26amp; also have polosystic disease on my ovaries %26amp; me %26amp; my husband want to have our 3 child. I am on fertility drugs %26amp; nothing yet any good ideasCan any females give me good advice on how to get pregnant when having polosystic ovary disease?
Metformin and clomid are the meds used to treat PCOS. If you can't get pregnant on them usually sorry to say you won't be able to get pregnant. Since you have had 2 children already the chances a third time is great. It just will take time. I have PCOS and we have tried for 4 years for our first child. We just started meds. From experiences with friends, it usually takes no more than a year on metformin to get pregnant.Can any females give me good advice on how to get pregnant when having polosystic ovary disease?
cysts didnt interfere at all with my pregnancies. Nothing you can do will get rid of the cysts
consult your OB-Gyne for medical advice
This is my story. I have pcos too. I am in my 30s. I got in shape, ate right, lost weight (a good bit) and got really healthy. My periods became normal again and I got pregnant 2 weeks after coming off the pill! (I wasn't even trying). But I'm happy to report that I have a beautiful baby boy now. Getting healthy the good old fashioned way is your best option. Again, that's my opinion. Good luck!
Tuesday, November 22, 2011
A learning disability students need some advice about going back to college?
I am 32 years old. I am thinking about going back to college to complete my associates degree. I have been out four years of college. What I need the advice about is the following.
Should I go back to the community college that I left or just transfer to a four year college that has a program and services for learning disability students?A learning disability students need some advice about going back to college?
If it make you feel any better, I also have a learning disability and I went back to college at the age of 35 after dropping out 5 years earlier. Now, almost at the age of 38, I not only earned my Associate's Degree where I graduated with a 3.82 but I started back this past August with the hopes of earning my Bachelor's Degree. Despite my learning disability, my academic standings have grabbed attention from schools such as the University of Virginia and Columbia.
In my honest opinion. I think that you should go back to the community college where you started at, earn you Associate's Degree, and transfer to a nice university that will accept your credits. The next part is totally up to you but I never once brought up the subject that I have a learning disability to any of my instuctors/ professors. In my opinion, the college does not need to know a person's disability status.A learning disability students need some advice about going back to college?
The community college my son attended provided unlimited tutors and extended test time. I would advise complete the AA degree t the community college first. Community college classes are smaller and you can get core courses out of the way. Also, my son benefited from the Associate's degree in that it eliminated the second language requirement when he transferred to the university.
Colleges are not required by law to provide any extra services for disabled students (other than building access) so if you find a four-year program at a place that offers services that is a plus.
the community collegve should have services for studnets with disabilities-if tehy don't theya re in violation of teh law
if you are talking about actaul classes-and you think you need that support-tehn go straight to the 4 year-
what kind of degree do you want-do you ultimately was a 4 year degree-or do you want to stop after your 2 year?
usually the general ed courses in a community college and 4 year state college are similar-
a univeristy may be more difficult
I honestly think that depends on what your goals are. YOu could easily finish up the associates, since that is what you already took, but if you truly want to go to a 4 year college, you should look into transferring what you already have and get started there. Any college has to have supports for LD students. Contact the schools you are interested in and find out what support you could get.
Good luck and good for you for going back!!!!
I would go back to the Community college seeing how you already have been there. Go talk to Services for Students with Disabilities or what every is like that at the school. That is who I go and talk to and they are really nice at helping meet my needs in what I need. Good Luck
Any college should have assisstance for students with disabilities. Check with the college of your choice for more information. I am pretty sure they are required by law to meet your needs.
Should I go back to the community college that I left or just transfer to a four year college that has a program and services for learning disability students?A learning disability students need some advice about going back to college?
If it make you feel any better, I also have a learning disability and I went back to college at the age of 35 after dropping out 5 years earlier. Now, almost at the age of 38, I not only earned my Associate's Degree where I graduated with a 3.82 but I started back this past August with the hopes of earning my Bachelor's Degree. Despite my learning disability, my academic standings have grabbed attention from schools such as the University of Virginia and Columbia.
In my honest opinion. I think that you should go back to the community college where you started at, earn you Associate's Degree, and transfer to a nice university that will accept your credits. The next part is totally up to you but I never once brought up the subject that I have a learning disability to any of my instuctors/ professors. In my opinion, the college does not need to know a person's disability status.A learning disability students need some advice about going back to college?
The community college my son attended provided unlimited tutors and extended test time. I would advise complete the AA degree t the community college first. Community college classes are smaller and you can get core courses out of the way. Also, my son benefited from the Associate's degree in that it eliminated the second language requirement when he transferred to the university.
Colleges are not required by law to provide any extra services for disabled students (other than building access) so if you find a four-year program at a place that offers services that is a plus.
the community collegve should have services for studnets with disabilities-if tehy don't theya re in violation of teh law
if you are talking about actaul classes-and you think you need that support-tehn go straight to the 4 year-
what kind of degree do you want-do you ultimately was a 4 year degree-or do you want to stop after your 2 year?
usually the general ed courses in a community college and 4 year state college are similar-
a univeristy may be more difficult
I honestly think that depends on what your goals are. YOu could easily finish up the associates, since that is what you already took, but if you truly want to go to a 4 year college, you should look into transferring what you already have and get started there. Any college has to have supports for LD students. Contact the schools you are interested in and find out what support you could get.
Good luck and good for you for going back!!!!
I would go back to the Community college seeing how you already have been there. Go talk to Services for Students with Disabilities or what every is like that at the school. That is who I go and talk to and they are really nice at helping meet my needs in what I need. Good Luck
Any college should have assisstance for students with disabilities. Check with the college of your choice for more information. I am pretty sure they are required by law to meet your needs.
Ive heard pros and cons of police auctions can anyone give me some reliable advice?
Ok im thinking about getting a new car. I've been told Police auctions you can get some pretty good vehicles at a pretty cheap price. I dont care about the history of the car or what it was used for. But ive heard only car dealers go there and your lucky if you get the crappiest car they have cause the car dealers always outbid independant people who are there for a vehicle is this true?Ive heard pros and cons of police auctions can anyone give me some reliable advice?
dealers dont regularly use these auctions. the worst idea about these auctions are that you cant drive the vehicle before you buy it. if you want to spend $500-$1000 on a vehicle its ok but you dont know what you are buying.Ive heard pros and cons of police auctions can anyone give me some reliable advice?
You can get pretty good cars from a police auction. There aren't too many dealer's that go to them though because they usually go to dealer's/wholesale auctions. The good thing about going to a police auction is that you can get a good, reliable car for way less than what you would pay anywhere else. But they are sold in as-is condition so be sure to give it a good inspection before you buy or bring a mechanic with you to check it out. Other than that you're good to go.
Police impound auctions can have junkers, or luxury vehicles confiscated from drug dealers. So never know until you go see what's available. And these auctions are not just for dealers. The public can go and bid and, yes, sometimes but not always, dealers will be there bidding against you. But remember, dealers won't pay more than wholesale price, so if you see a nice car and want to bid a slightly higher price, you might get the car. Here's more details:
http://www.leaseguide.com/Articles/polic鈥?/a>
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Most of these were not used in a crime but impounded. People did not think what they owed was worth paying to get them out. Some may be good buys but most are junk.
dealers dont regularly use these auctions. the worst idea about these auctions are that you cant drive the vehicle before you buy it. if you want to spend $500-$1000 on a vehicle its ok but you dont know what you are buying.Ive heard pros and cons of police auctions can anyone give me some reliable advice?
You can get pretty good cars from a police auction. There aren't too many dealer's that go to them though because they usually go to dealer's/wholesale auctions. The good thing about going to a police auction is that you can get a good, reliable car for way less than what you would pay anywhere else. But they are sold in as-is condition so be sure to give it a good inspection before you buy or bring a mechanic with you to check it out. Other than that you're good to go.
Police impound auctions can have junkers, or luxury vehicles confiscated from drug dealers. So never know until you go see what's available. And these auctions are not just for dealers. The public can go and bid and, yes, sometimes but not always, dealers will be there bidding against you. But remember, dealers won't pay more than wholesale price, so if you see a nice car and want to bid a slightly higher price, you might get the car. Here's more details:
http://www.leaseguide.com/Articles/polic鈥?/a>
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Most of these were not used in a crime but impounded. People did not think what they owed was worth paying to get them out. Some may be good buys but most are junk.
I need some good advice from someone with experience with this?
Im jewish and my fiance is christian. We decided to raise our kids jewish when we have them, as well as celebrate the jewish holidays in our home. His family is not too happy about this, and if it were the other way around, my family wouldnt be either. We re having a jewish wedding and I dont want to have tension or awkwardness at my wedding. What's the best way to approach the situation before it becomes an issue?I need some good advice from someone with experience with this?
Explain that you are Jewish and therefore according to your religion your children are Jewish also. Sit down and explain what the ceremony will be like and what each part means.
If they wanted their son to have married a Christian they should have indoctrinated him with that trait while bringing him up.I need some good advice from someone with experience with this?
Someone I worked with was Jewish and her husband Christian. They participated in both holidays. They had a wedding ceremony that worked with both religions. And their kids grew up with both religions.
When the kids were old enough to decide for themselves, they did. 2 went with the Jewish faith, one with the Christian. She did not go to Christian services, he did not go to Jewish services - except around important Holidays - then the respected each others.
Marriage is a difficult thing, it is the blending of 2 lives into 1, 2 families into a new one, adding different religions makes it harder. You both have to understand each others backgrounds and find a way to blend them into something that is acceptable to you and your families. Like it our not, his family is now a part of yours and from here on out it will be a constant job blending and understanding.
Below are some links to interfaith weddings...
Why not let your children know both the Jewish and Christian teachings?
That way they can decide. And you could celebrate both the jewish and christian holidays.
As for your wedding, it should be how you want it.
The best way to approach it is not to sweep it under the rug. Talk about it with everyone. Include his family in your celebrations and explain what your rituals are and be open to learning and celebrating the Christian rituals that they have. Remember, you both have the same Old Testament. As long as you communicate about it all, it shouldn't be a problem. Good luck and congrats.
Lynn, it sounds like you need to learn that marriage (mine has lasted for 28 years) is a series of comprises. I feel that you think that this is only your marriage and in a sense it is , but also remember that his parents will be the grandparents of your children. I realize that your faith is important to you , but theirs is important to them. Try to celebrate all of them to make things easier and keep everyone happy, that is unless you don't care about how his parents feel. I guess that what I am trying to say is to attempt to combine both and get the best of both worlds. Good luck
You two can probably work it out and make it work just fine. Sounds like you all ready have. Pressure from in laws can ruin everything. You both need to tell them that's it's all ready settled and you won't discuss it. Yeah, good luck with that.
I was catholic, she was protestant. My in laws were controlling people. After 19 years they finally convinced their daughter to leave me. She moved in with an unemployed used car salesman!!!??? Left me with 4 girls to raise and all the bills. She maxed all the plastic before she left too.
In the long run she did us a favor. We lived well after she left.
I hope you can do better than this.
Good luck. You have made wise choices, hope the pressure won't get to you.
do both, have a Jewish/christian wedding
celebrate both holidays, that is what my client does.
then the children have the power of knowing both controlling religions %26amp; can choose the lies they want to follow.
this will cancel the b.s. you will have with in-laws on both sides
You are the one that would be creating awkwardness by subscribing to all of the BS stipulations. Hey listen, whatever will be, will be... Love has no religion, embrace both worlds and just be happy. And whomever has a problem with it, too bad. Misery loves company
Why not celebrate both? You should share with your child both of your beliefs. If you are not willing to do that then you have to accept that one of the families will be unhappy.
yah i think that you should just have a normal wedding.
that way both families are equally offended and nobody feels to tense about the other family being more favored.
have an unorthodox wedding and upset everyone equally
you are raising your kids jewish? i say let the kids determine their own faith when they are older
why would they be happy? i mean come on, your people killed the son of God......
try combining things from both of your religions at your wedding
weird
Explain that you are Jewish and therefore according to your religion your children are Jewish also. Sit down and explain what the ceremony will be like and what each part means.
If they wanted their son to have married a Christian they should have indoctrinated him with that trait while bringing him up.I need some good advice from someone with experience with this?
Someone I worked with was Jewish and her husband Christian. They participated in both holidays. They had a wedding ceremony that worked with both religions. And their kids grew up with both religions.
When the kids were old enough to decide for themselves, they did. 2 went with the Jewish faith, one with the Christian. She did not go to Christian services, he did not go to Jewish services - except around important Holidays - then the respected each others.
Marriage is a difficult thing, it is the blending of 2 lives into 1, 2 families into a new one, adding different religions makes it harder. You both have to understand each others backgrounds and find a way to blend them into something that is acceptable to you and your families. Like it our not, his family is now a part of yours and from here on out it will be a constant job blending and understanding.
Below are some links to interfaith weddings...
Why not let your children know both the Jewish and Christian teachings?
That way they can decide. And you could celebrate both the jewish and christian holidays.
As for your wedding, it should be how you want it.
The best way to approach it is not to sweep it under the rug. Talk about it with everyone. Include his family in your celebrations and explain what your rituals are and be open to learning and celebrating the Christian rituals that they have. Remember, you both have the same Old Testament. As long as you communicate about it all, it shouldn't be a problem. Good luck and congrats.
Lynn, it sounds like you need to learn that marriage (mine has lasted for 28 years) is a series of comprises. I feel that you think that this is only your marriage and in a sense it is , but also remember that his parents will be the grandparents of your children. I realize that your faith is important to you , but theirs is important to them. Try to celebrate all of them to make things easier and keep everyone happy, that is unless you don't care about how his parents feel. I guess that what I am trying to say is to attempt to combine both and get the best of both worlds. Good luck
You two can probably work it out and make it work just fine. Sounds like you all ready have. Pressure from in laws can ruin everything. You both need to tell them that's it's all ready settled and you won't discuss it. Yeah, good luck with that.
I was catholic, she was protestant. My in laws were controlling people. After 19 years they finally convinced their daughter to leave me. She moved in with an unemployed used car salesman!!!??? Left me with 4 girls to raise and all the bills. She maxed all the plastic before she left too.
In the long run she did us a favor. We lived well after she left.
I hope you can do better than this.
Good luck. You have made wise choices, hope the pressure won't get to you.
do both, have a Jewish/christian wedding
celebrate both holidays, that is what my client does.
then the children have the power of knowing both controlling religions %26amp; can choose the lies they want to follow.
this will cancel the b.s. you will have with in-laws on both sides
You are the one that would be creating awkwardness by subscribing to all of the BS stipulations. Hey listen, whatever will be, will be... Love has no religion, embrace both worlds and just be happy. And whomever has a problem with it, too bad. Misery loves company
Why not celebrate both? You should share with your child both of your beliefs. If you are not willing to do that then you have to accept that one of the families will be unhappy.
yah i think that you should just have a normal wedding.
that way both families are equally offended and nobody feels to tense about the other family being more favored.
have an unorthodox wedding and upset everyone equally
you are raising your kids jewish? i say let the kids determine their own faith when they are older
why would they be happy? i mean come on, your people killed the son of God......
try combining things from both of your religions at your wedding
weird
What kind of a advice should i give her?
I have a friend whose a freshman in high school and she's dating a junior in highschool. her b/f wants to have a baby with her and she is not ready for it but since she likes babies she wants to have her own but not right now. after considering all the responsibilities for the babies and every single thing that she should consider...she's confused she doesnt know what to say. what should she do? and also what should i tell her to do?What kind of a advice should i give her?
1st, I'd tell your friend to break it off with this guy %26amp; under no circumstances should she sleep with him. He sounds like a real creep to me. If she has a baby with him, I seriously doubt if he'll be willing or able to help her in any way.
Then, I'd advise her to meet with some teen moms. They can tell her 1st-hand how hard it is to care for a baby at this age. It's hard enough at any age.
When she's much older %26amp; more settled, with the right man, then perhaps she'll be ready for children.
I pray that she'll listen. Good luck.What kind of a advice should i give her?
having a baby sounds easy... yeah you can point out the costs, how she going to raise it ,How it will affect her family, her school and all.. But 1 thing normally does not get stated, the medical side, get her facts about how this effects her body %26amp; babys..
she not medically old enought to have a normal birth, If she very lucky she be able to have a vagial birth (that hurts like hell) more then likely she have to have a c-section...
pregnant teenagers are especially vulnerable to complications, such as high blood pressure, anemia, and, most troubling, premature delivery %26amp; miscarages. Their babies are more likely to be too small at birth and often have underdeveloped lungs, vision problems, or a host of other ailments
Everyone likes babies but it's not all fun and games when you have to take care of one 24 hours a day 7 days a week for the next 18 years. I'm 28 years old, I work 50 hours a week and go to college full-time-finally! I have a good job but I still live paycheck to paycheck because children grow fast and they need a whole new wardrobe every six months or so and it's not cheap. My daughter is 8 years old and me and her father are still together but money has been tight and we get angry easy because we don't get much freetime and when we do we don't have the money to do anything. Your friend may think she's in love right now, but I was to with everyone of the guys I dated during high school! She's young, she'll meet and fall in love with lots more guys. Tell her not to settle on this one quite yet. Stay in school and have a baby after she owns her own home. She'll have the money and be able to enjoy her family much more.
Tell her to cut him off and keep her legs closed.
First of all, you need to tell her to get away from that guy. Any 16 year old kid (just a guess but thats an average for a HS junior) that WANTS a kid...is out of his mind. He most likely just wants to have sex with her, but thats a messed up way of going about it. Why don't you take her somewhere that she can talk with young moms, see the struggle they go through every day and hear it from them. You need to make sure she knows that just becase she ';likes'; babies..she is nowhere near ready to have her own. Maybe just one night at a house with an infant waking her up screaming in the middle of the night will change her mind.
She's too young. Babies are a lot of work! I have two babies under the age of two and I'm married and I still have trouble. Tell her she should wait until she's in a committed, adult relationship..its hard enough to support a baby on two incomes, nevermind on an income of a couple still in high school!
tell her to SAY NO hejust wants to have sex he wont be there odds are to take care of that baby. she needs to break it off with him NOW
Have her to tell him to get one of those dolls that act just exactly like a real baby. Have him take care of it for a week and then see if he still really wants to have a baby. Babies are great, but their not all fun and games. Tell her to tell him NO!!! They are both wayyyyy to young to even be considering having children. She needs to have some respect for herself.
I'm wondering why he is so eager to start a family... but if she has ANY reservations about having children, then she shouldn't get pregnant. Parenthood is a relatively permanent condition.
Tell her that if she has a baby now, she seriously limits her chances of having a stable, secure family at any time in the future. She should babysit for a family with small children. If she was around babies and children, maybe she would see how much work it is.
to get the hell away from him and if this guy wants a baby so bad he needs to marry her first and they should be married for a couple of years
tell him no, that she is too young for that.
Take it from some one who knows. Tell her finish school first.........get a job and then have a baby. Birth control is what you tell her!!
I had a kid in high school and life was a real struggle for awhile. Babies are a major responsibility.
Men will say anything to get a girl to put out. If your neighborhood has a parenting class, have her take that...a lot of times they have you take care of a computerized baby...not fun. Also, she has her whole life ahead of her to have a baby...why when she's a freshmen...maybe after high school and college, but if she has a baby b4 then, it will be very hard for her to achieve her dreams.
i think u should tell her to wait until she is out of school and is financially stable to have a Babbie and can give it every thing it needs and then some.i had my son when i was 19 and i still some times have trouble coming up with the money for thing that come up that cost u. its wounder full that she wants kids but she needs to make shur that this is the man she wants to be in her life for the rest of her life .not just for her but for the kid/kids to be . If this is truly what he wants then he will respect that and wait for her.
1st, I'd tell your friend to break it off with this guy %26amp; under no circumstances should she sleep with him. He sounds like a real creep to me. If she has a baby with him, I seriously doubt if he'll be willing or able to help her in any way.
Then, I'd advise her to meet with some teen moms. They can tell her 1st-hand how hard it is to care for a baby at this age. It's hard enough at any age.
When she's much older %26amp; more settled, with the right man, then perhaps she'll be ready for children.
I pray that she'll listen. Good luck.What kind of a advice should i give her?
having a baby sounds easy... yeah you can point out the costs, how she going to raise it ,How it will affect her family, her school and all.. But 1 thing normally does not get stated, the medical side, get her facts about how this effects her body %26amp; babys..
she not medically old enought to have a normal birth, If she very lucky she be able to have a vagial birth (that hurts like hell) more then likely she have to have a c-section...
pregnant teenagers are especially vulnerable to complications, such as high blood pressure, anemia, and, most troubling, premature delivery %26amp; miscarages. Their babies are more likely to be too small at birth and often have underdeveloped lungs, vision problems, or a host of other ailments
Everyone likes babies but it's not all fun and games when you have to take care of one 24 hours a day 7 days a week for the next 18 years. I'm 28 years old, I work 50 hours a week and go to college full-time-finally! I have a good job but I still live paycheck to paycheck because children grow fast and they need a whole new wardrobe every six months or so and it's not cheap. My daughter is 8 years old and me and her father are still together but money has been tight and we get angry easy because we don't get much freetime and when we do we don't have the money to do anything. Your friend may think she's in love right now, but I was to with everyone of the guys I dated during high school! She's young, she'll meet and fall in love with lots more guys. Tell her not to settle on this one quite yet. Stay in school and have a baby after she owns her own home. She'll have the money and be able to enjoy her family much more.
Tell her to cut him off and keep her legs closed.
First of all, you need to tell her to get away from that guy. Any 16 year old kid (just a guess but thats an average for a HS junior) that WANTS a kid...is out of his mind. He most likely just wants to have sex with her, but thats a messed up way of going about it. Why don't you take her somewhere that she can talk with young moms, see the struggle they go through every day and hear it from them. You need to make sure she knows that just becase she ';likes'; babies..she is nowhere near ready to have her own. Maybe just one night at a house with an infant waking her up screaming in the middle of the night will change her mind.
She's too young. Babies are a lot of work! I have two babies under the age of two and I'm married and I still have trouble. Tell her she should wait until she's in a committed, adult relationship..its hard enough to support a baby on two incomes, nevermind on an income of a couple still in high school!
tell her to SAY NO hejust wants to have sex he wont be there odds are to take care of that baby. she needs to break it off with him NOW
Have her to tell him to get one of those dolls that act just exactly like a real baby. Have him take care of it for a week and then see if he still really wants to have a baby. Babies are great, but their not all fun and games. Tell her to tell him NO!!! They are both wayyyyy to young to even be considering having children. She needs to have some respect for herself.
I'm wondering why he is so eager to start a family... but if she has ANY reservations about having children, then she shouldn't get pregnant. Parenthood is a relatively permanent condition.
Tell her that if she has a baby now, she seriously limits her chances of having a stable, secure family at any time in the future. She should babysit for a family with small children. If she was around babies and children, maybe she would see how much work it is.
to get the hell away from him and if this guy wants a baby so bad he needs to marry her first and they should be married for a couple of years
tell him no, that she is too young for that.
Take it from some one who knows. Tell her finish school first.........get a job and then have a baby. Birth control is what you tell her!!
I had a kid in high school and life was a real struggle for awhile. Babies are a major responsibility.
Men will say anything to get a girl to put out. If your neighborhood has a parenting class, have her take that...a lot of times they have you take care of a computerized baby...not fun. Also, she has her whole life ahead of her to have a baby...why when she's a freshmen...maybe after high school and college, but if she has a baby b4 then, it will be very hard for her to achieve her dreams.
i think u should tell her to wait until she is out of school and is financially stable to have a Babbie and can give it every thing it needs and then some.i had my son when i was 19 and i still some times have trouble coming up with the money for thing that come up that cost u. its wounder full that she wants kids but she needs to make shur that this is the man she wants to be in her life for the rest of her life .not just for her but for the kid/kids to be . If this is truly what he wants then he will respect that and wait for her.
Can you give me advice on how to be relaxed and optimistic?
I am so pessimistic and stressed at the moment. My problems are:
1- I just had a baby 4 months ago, I love her so much and I am happily taking care of her needs, but I have lost my freedom and don't know how to cope with the new life.
2- I am overweight, 60 kgs when I should be 50 kgs with 160cm height. I can't go on a diet because I am breastfeeding, and excercising is just too much work. I excercise every now and then but it doesn't help shaping my body at all.
3- My husband has a medical problem and is having an operation in 2 weeks, regarding our sex life, as we haven't slept together for 9 months.
4- I just can't seem to be interested in any sort of social contact and I just stay at home all the time, with seeing no body or calling no body. I want to make new friends, but I feel like I have nothing to tell them, or I hate my body and can't find a good outfit.
5- I want to start a self-business next year and I am now researching for it. But everything seems a hard work.Can you give me advice on how to be relaxed and optimistic?
Its so tough, I guess just realize there are so many of us struggling. One thing I do to motivate myself is to eliminate any form of self-pity or regret. Useless traits. I saw these sisters who's heads were connected and one of the women was all short and deformed and had to be lugged around on a table with wheels. Made me realize that having a normal head and body is something that I take for granted. Optimism is about at its core appreciating what you do have - the fact that you do have a husband, and that you do have a child, and that you do have a mind that wants to start a business and try new things, take risks. It's a self-process and so difficult, and no one else can tell you to do it. I think the best way out of misery is to use the frustration to detach a little bit, and let go of the worries. Once you do that you'll find yourself being able to appreciate new things, and do things you didn't think previously possible. You can exercise, however you must start really small as de-motivating as it seems to do a ';half-***'; workout. People get to grandiose and then abandon plans. Forcing in a simple walk each day and some situps and going on from there. It becomes routine, it becomes easier and you hit a point once you start where the exercise actually becomes enjoyable and addictive. That's how people get in such great shape. You think they enjoy it from day one? Doubtful. It sucks. But over time your mind changes and actually craves the exercise which is how people stay so consistent with it. That being said, with your weight I'm not even sure you're really overweight - I don't know kg's... But even if not the exercise is good either way, moving around is scientifically proven to reduce depression.Can you give me advice on how to be relaxed and optimistic?
bless you,
first of all, about your weight, i am no good with kgs so i will give that one a miss but tie that in with your inability to go out of the house and the answer would be simple, go for a walk. however i am the same as youi do not want to leave the house as so much needs to be done and even when it doesnt i just want 'me' time. so i am in a bit of a rut like you.
i deffo cannot find a nice outfit to wear, but one thing i have found solace in is just looking for something you feel comfy in, even if you do have to go for the bigger size for now, you have just had a baby and people will understand.
if you feel restricted by thr breastfeeding why not switch to bottles? you have done more than enough by now and you might feel more free. a contented mother is better for baby.
i feel i have been forgotten about and this is my 2nd baby! people just assume you are too wrapped up in baby talkwhen really you are screaming out for adult conversation. how about having a little party for the girls? you could do ann summers, virgin vie or even body shop now.
i drive and find going out in the car on my own with the cd player blasting helps. otherwise you could try a mother toddler group, i have heard they are really good.
please let me know how you get on,
if you need to chat i am here paulakay212@hotmail.com
Have you tried yoga. Its worth getting a video or dvd and doing it at home. Otherwise join a group. It will relax your mind and get you in to shape.
First, enjoy your baby. They grow way too fast.
Second, don't worry about your weight. Most pregnant women lose a lot of the weight they gained during their pregnancy after the birth. Things will even out with your schedule once you get the hang of things. You'll have more time for excersise.
As for you not having any intercourse with your husband for the past 9 months, WHY? Sex during pregnancy (as long as it isn't too rough) is really good for expecting mothers! Plus, there are PLENTY of other sexual activities besides intercourse that you and your husband can enjoy together.
New friends can be made in the thousands of chatrooms and profile pages on the internet. Here's a good one: http://www.okcupid.com
You can meet other people like you in your area and it's free.
The business will have to be put on hold. If only for a little while. Your baby comes first now. (At least it should.)
Things that help me with stress:
-A scalding hot bath/shower. Man, are they GOOD! Especially after a long day. The heat helps loosen muscles that have become stiff throughout the day.
-Sex. You said there's some kind of thing going on but that doesn't mean other things aren't off the table. A good orgasm can release major amounts of stress.
-A massage. Coming from your husband, this of course can lead to other things. (Wink, wink!) It can also serve a purpose as to reinforcing your bond as parents by having some time to yourselves that means something. (Obviously when the baby is sleeping.)
I'm sure you can think of other things that can help you relieve stress that only will work for you.
And congrats on the new baby!
First of all, congrats on the new baby! It must be both exciting and scary at the same time!
I know it's hard to right now, but remind yourself that all this stuff is temporary. It sounds like you are looking ahead with your business plans, and that's a good way to be! You are being optimistic in believing that it will be a success once it's carried out.
Your body is still recovering from a major event, and you're still breastfeeding, so there are still different hormone fluctuations in your body, and unfortunately it's making you feel stressed and very tired at the same time. Know that time will change all these things...your beautiful baby will be weaned off your breast and your body will return to ';normal';. Make sure you go to all of your scheduled follow ups, and the baby's also. This way, should it be something else going on, you can catch it before it becomes more involved. Even though your tired, try your best to work out...even if it is just a walk around the block...the exercise will help you feel better and less stressed (and you can feel like you are doing something towards weight loss!)
I'm sure you've sat down and talk to your husband in depth about your feelings. If not, do it! Let him express himself too...together, you both have experienced a major life event, and there may be some concerns and frustrations to let out. If all else fails, try some counseling. To me, your situation sounds emotionally-based, and once those issues are resolved, I think the physical intimacy will return.
Keep researching your business plan, even if you can only think about it for a few minutes a day, because once your situation changes and you get your ';old self'; back, you'll want to dive right into it.
Everything will work out in the end...it just will take time. Good luck!
how can you say you are overweight i am 64 kg and about 155cm height.according to my body mass index this weight is fine unless the doc was just trying to make me feel better.have you spoken to your doctor about these feelings it could be post natal depression.
Sounds to me like you have post natal depression. Go see your maternal health nurse for a local support group and see your doc in case you need to go onto anti depressants. You will be surprised at how common it is. Getting the right support makes all the difference.
Sarah: -
I know how you feel. My son is 10 months old and he is my life.
Before I had a baby I had a very busy life, I worked 40 hours a week, was a semi professional dancer, had lots of hobbies including singing and playing piano, I was attractive, curvy and bubbly with waist length hair.
Well now I have the opposite problem to you in that breastfeeding has made me lose too much weight and I look like crap. Really skinny, haggard and unnattractive. My hair fell out so badly after my baby was born I had to have it all cut off to a layered shoulder length bob which I hate, it looks lank and makes my face look thinner and also makes me look older.
I don't work anymore, and haven't danced for 18 months, I never have the time or energy to sing or take a music lesson. I never go out or do anything. In fact the highlight of my week is mum and baby group on a Thursday and going to my mums to take her shopping!
I feel better in a way to know that I'm not alone in all this. My partner is not always helpful, he thinks I shouldn't have any social life and should get a part time job and just work and look after the baby. He works long hours for low pay and is always tired and grouchy. We don't have much of a relationship left it seems sometimes.
I don't know if you're like me but part of my problem is that I have no family and friends nearby - the only family I have is my mum, who is 72 and not in good health, and my brother who is 29 and wrapped up with himself. They live about 13 miles away. My partner's family live 250 miles away so they cannot help. As a result there is noone to look after my baby for an afternoon or something so that I can out and do something for myself.
And when I do get the time, ie when my partner comes home at night, I'm too tired and can't motivate myself to get out and do things! I'm ashamed to let my old friends see me as I look fo skinny and haggard and not like my old self.
I know I should be looking for a part time job, I've thought about trying to do things to earn money for myself, giving piano lessons at home or trying to start an online business but to be honest I don't have the energy or the motivation.
I can only hope that things will get better, I wish I could offer you some practical advice but I don't feel in a position to do so as my situation is so similar. Lots of others have given you some good advice and I can only hope that knowing you are not alone in feeling like this will help a little!
Good luck and email me if you'd like to!!
sounds like you are depressed and overwhelmed.
you say you lost freedom taking care of baby. Thats not true. there is alot of freedom taking care of baby and motherhood teaches you to be creative. You can still go everywhere and do everything. You need to find different ways to do stuff when you have a baby but they are very adaptable . And if you need a break, get a sitter, or ask a relative.
As far as your weight, exercise is hard just like labor because its work. When you want it bad enough you will do it. Exercise will help you feel better physically which will help mentally. You can get back in shape. i've had 6 and my youngest was just born this mothers day and I am a size 5 . You have to want it.
Good your hubby is getting medical help for his problem that should do you both good.
Go out and find a park and take baby outside for some air and you will meet moms . Don't you think you may find other moms who feel the same way ? They don't care what you wear, they arent dating you.
As far as business.. .. How Do You Eat An Elephant ???????? One bite at a time ! Hard work is hard. You will be okay. go see doc for checkup.And remember.. you are what you think so make it something beautiful. good luck.
With regarding your weight. You can make changes to your diet whilst breast feeding that will help you lose weight. Try to eat products with less than 4% fat, and try and eat foods that are not processed, because your body will take more energy to digest them. Also try and include protein in every meal as this makes you feel full for longer, and a little bit of calcium in your diet helps fat to pass through unabsorbed.
Any little exercise will increase your metabolism. Just put baby in the buggy and walk for 20 minutes every morning. Dance while you are doing your housework.
Find out where your nearest mother and baby group is or some other kind of activity you can do with your baby. Ask your health visitor for information. You will meet people with the same things in common as you. (they are parents)
Go to www.flylady.net who will help you be more organised and motivated.
Good luck. Remember, there are thousands out there that would love to be in your shoes. xxx
Having a baby is a life changing event. I had a baby boy 11 months ago and although I love every moment with him, I do miss the freedom I once had as well. When you look at your list of problems it must seem very overwhelming for you so try tackling them one at a time.
I joined a new mom's group when my son was 10 weeks old. We would get together once a week and chat. I found that it really helped me socialize and meet new people who were in the same stage in life as me. Although I do not go anymore, I really hit it off with one mom and we talk and get together all the time. Perhaps if you do this you will feel less isolated.
As for exercise, try and schedule a good 1 hour walk every day. The fresh air will be good for you and your baby. Start slow, then work up to a brisk pace. Walking is terrific exercise.
The sex life does go down the tubes in the first few months after you have the baby....but it will get better. Do you have a friend or family that you would feel comfortable leaving your baby with for a few hours? If so, then schedule a regular ';date night'; for you and your husband after he has recovered from his surgurey. Also, see if your friends and famly could come by occasionally for a few hours to give you a break from the mom and wife duties, especially while your husband is recovering.
Anyways, I hope that this helps and that you feel more optimistic soon. Being a mom is a demanding job and it is normal to feel overwhelmed nce in a while so don't be so hard on yourself.
my advise is dont start a business up next year the likely hood is it will collapse or you will. do what most mothers do and put your life on hold. My daughter is 4 has just started school so i can now go to college.i have had to wait 4 years for this so now i have the determination needed to make it a success without anything else being effected. Unfortunatlly you cant have it all in one go.
you will get youre figure back exspecially because you are breast feeding and youre just feeling depressed about everything you need to get out once in a while and you need to beleive in youre self you can do anything you put youre mind too and it is hard work to be successful in life you can do it ! dont be so hard on youre self and you can find new friends with children and start going to park together or other fun places for kids once you start getting out of the house you will see you will make all kinds of new friends and then you will see youre life hasnt ended or youre freedom just relax and enjoy life as it comes to you beleive in youre self and you will make it through this good luck and happiness
Sounds like you need Grand Parents and a holiday to look forward to
weed, no i'm joking, firstly you need to take things one at a time your problems are'nt going anywhere, so breathe and then decide what is most inportant and tackle that first and then evrything else, remember you are going to have to accept that there are some things you can't fix, your're a woman not a superhero, there is a diffrence
1- I just had a baby 4 months ago, I love her so much and I am happily taking care of her needs, but I have lost my freedom and don't know how to cope with the new life.
2- I am overweight, 60 kgs when I should be 50 kgs with 160cm height. I can't go on a diet because I am breastfeeding, and excercising is just too much work. I excercise every now and then but it doesn't help shaping my body at all.
3- My husband has a medical problem and is having an operation in 2 weeks, regarding our sex life, as we haven't slept together for 9 months.
4- I just can't seem to be interested in any sort of social contact and I just stay at home all the time, with seeing no body or calling no body. I want to make new friends, but I feel like I have nothing to tell them, or I hate my body and can't find a good outfit.
5- I want to start a self-business next year and I am now researching for it. But everything seems a hard work.Can you give me advice on how to be relaxed and optimistic?
Its so tough, I guess just realize there are so many of us struggling. One thing I do to motivate myself is to eliminate any form of self-pity or regret. Useless traits. I saw these sisters who's heads were connected and one of the women was all short and deformed and had to be lugged around on a table with wheels. Made me realize that having a normal head and body is something that I take for granted. Optimism is about at its core appreciating what you do have - the fact that you do have a husband, and that you do have a child, and that you do have a mind that wants to start a business and try new things, take risks. It's a self-process and so difficult, and no one else can tell you to do it. I think the best way out of misery is to use the frustration to detach a little bit, and let go of the worries. Once you do that you'll find yourself being able to appreciate new things, and do things you didn't think previously possible. You can exercise, however you must start really small as de-motivating as it seems to do a ';half-***'; workout. People get to grandiose and then abandon plans. Forcing in a simple walk each day and some situps and going on from there. It becomes routine, it becomes easier and you hit a point once you start where the exercise actually becomes enjoyable and addictive. That's how people get in such great shape. You think they enjoy it from day one? Doubtful. It sucks. But over time your mind changes and actually craves the exercise which is how people stay so consistent with it. That being said, with your weight I'm not even sure you're really overweight - I don't know kg's... But even if not the exercise is good either way, moving around is scientifically proven to reduce depression.Can you give me advice on how to be relaxed and optimistic?
bless you,
first of all, about your weight, i am no good with kgs so i will give that one a miss but tie that in with your inability to go out of the house and the answer would be simple, go for a walk. however i am the same as youi do not want to leave the house as so much needs to be done and even when it doesnt i just want 'me' time. so i am in a bit of a rut like you.
i deffo cannot find a nice outfit to wear, but one thing i have found solace in is just looking for something you feel comfy in, even if you do have to go for the bigger size for now, you have just had a baby and people will understand.
if you feel restricted by thr breastfeeding why not switch to bottles? you have done more than enough by now and you might feel more free. a contented mother is better for baby.
i feel i have been forgotten about and this is my 2nd baby! people just assume you are too wrapped up in baby talkwhen really you are screaming out for adult conversation. how about having a little party for the girls? you could do ann summers, virgin vie or even body shop now.
i drive and find going out in the car on my own with the cd player blasting helps. otherwise you could try a mother toddler group, i have heard they are really good.
please let me know how you get on,
if you need to chat i am here paulakay212@hotmail.com
Have you tried yoga. Its worth getting a video or dvd and doing it at home. Otherwise join a group. It will relax your mind and get you in to shape.
First, enjoy your baby. They grow way too fast.
Second, don't worry about your weight. Most pregnant women lose a lot of the weight they gained during their pregnancy after the birth. Things will even out with your schedule once you get the hang of things. You'll have more time for excersise.
As for you not having any intercourse with your husband for the past 9 months, WHY? Sex during pregnancy (as long as it isn't too rough) is really good for expecting mothers! Plus, there are PLENTY of other sexual activities besides intercourse that you and your husband can enjoy together.
New friends can be made in the thousands of chatrooms and profile pages on the internet. Here's a good one: http://www.okcupid.com
You can meet other people like you in your area and it's free.
The business will have to be put on hold. If only for a little while. Your baby comes first now. (At least it should.)
Things that help me with stress:
-A scalding hot bath/shower. Man, are they GOOD! Especially after a long day. The heat helps loosen muscles that have become stiff throughout the day.
-Sex. You said there's some kind of thing going on but that doesn't mean other things aren't off the table. A good orgasm can release major amounts of stress.
-A massage. Coming from your husband, this of course can lead to other things. (Wink, wink!) It can also serve a purpose as to reinforcing your bond as parents by having some time to yourselves that means something. (Obviously when the baby is sleeping.)
I'm sure you can think of other things that can help you relieve stress that only will work for you.
And congrats on the new baby!
First of all, congrats on the new baby! It must be both exciting and scary at the same time!
I know it's hard to right now, but remind yourself that all this stuff is temporary. It sounds like you are looking ahead with your business plans, and that's a good way to be! You are being optimistic in believing that it will be a success once it's carried out.
Your body is still recovering from a major event, and you're still breastfeeding, so there are still different hormone fluctuations in your body, and unfortunately it's making you feel stressed and very tired at the same time. Know that time will change all these things...your beautiful baby will be weaned off your breast and your body will return to ';normal';. Make sure you go to all of your scheduled follow ups, and the baby's also. This way, should it be something else going on, you can catch it before it becomes more involved. Even though your tired, try your best to work out...even if it is just a walk around the block...the exercise will help you feel better and less stressed (and you can feel like you are doing something towards weight loss!)
I'm sure you've sat down and talk to your husband in depth about your feelings. If not, do it! Let him express himself too...together, you both have experienced a major life event, and there may be some concerns and frustrations to let out. If all else fails, try some counseling. To me, your situation sounds emotionally-based, and once those issues are resolved, I think the physical intimacy will return.
Keep researching your business plan, even if you can only think about it for a few minutes a day, because once your situation changes and you get your ';old self'; back, you'll want to dive right into it.
Everything will work out in the end...it just will take time. Good luck!
how can you say you are overweight i am 64 kg and about 155cm height.according to my body mass index this weight is fine unless the doc was just trying to make me feel better.have you spoken to your doctor about these feelings it could be post natal depression.
Sounds to me like you have post natal depression. Go see your maternal health nurse for a local support group and see your doc in case you need to go onto anti depressants. You will be surprised at how common it is. Getting the right support makes all the difference.
Sarah: -
I know how you feel. My son is 10 months old and he is my life.
Before I had a baby I had a very busy life, I worked 40 hours a week, was a semi professional dancer, had lots of hobbies including singing and playing piano, I was attractive, curvy and bubbly with waist length hair.
Well now I have the opposite problem to you in that breastfeeding has made me lose too much weight and I look like crap. Really skinny, haggard and unnattractive. My hair fell out so badly after my baby was born I had to have it all cut off to a layered shoulder length bob which I hate, it looks lank and makes my face look thinner and also makes me look older.
I don't work anymore, and haven't danced for 18 months, I never have the time or energy to sing or take a music lesson. I never go out or do anything. In fact the highlight of my week is mum and baby group on a Thursday and going to my mums to take her shopping!
I feel better in a way to know that I'm not alone in all this. My partner is not always helpful, he thinks I shouldn't have any social life and should get a part time job and just work and look after the baby. He works long hours for low pay and is always tired and grouchy. We don't have much of a relationship left it seems sometimes.
I don't know if you're like me but part of my problem is that I have no family and friends nearby - the only family I have is my mum, who is 72 and not in good health, and my brother who is 29 and wrapped up with himself. They live about 13 miles away. My partner's family live 250 miles away so they cannot help. As a result there is noone to look after my baby for an afternoon or something so that I can out and do something for myself.
And when I do get the time, ie when my partner comes home at night, I'm too tired and can't motivate myself to get out and do things! I'm ashamed to let my old friends see me as I look fo skinny and haggard and not like my old self.
I know I should be looking for a part time job, I've thought about trying to do things to earn money for myself, giving piano lessons at home or trying to start an online business but to be honest I don't have the energy or the motivation.
I can only hope that things will get better, I wish I could offer you some practical advice but I don't feel in a position to do so as my situation is so similar. Lots of others have given you some good advice and I can only hope that knowing you are not alone in feeling like this will help a little!
Good luck and email me if you'd like to!!
sounds like you are depressed and overwhelmed.
you say you lost freedom taking care of baby. Thats not true. there is alot of freedom taking care of baby and motherhood teaches you to be creative. You can still go everywhere and do everything. You need to find different ways to do stuff when you have a baby but they are very adaptable . And if you need a break, get a sitter, or ask a relative.
As far as your weight, exercise is hard just like labor because its work. When you want it bad enough you will do it. Exercise will help you feel better physically which will help mentally. You can get back in shape. i've had 6 and my youngest was just born this mothers day and I am a size 5 . You have to want it.
Good your hubby is getting medical help for his problem that should do you both good.
Go out and find a park and take baby outside for some air and you will meet moms . Don't you think you may find other moms who feel the same way ? They don't care what you wear, they arent dating you.
As far as business.. .. How Do You Eat An Elephant ???????? One bite at a time ! Hard work is hard. You will be okay. go see doc for checkup.And remember.. you are what you think so make it something beautiful. good luck.
With regarding your weight. You can make changes to your diet whilst breast feeding that will help you lose weight. Try to eat products with less than 4% fat, and try and eat foods that are not processed, because your body will take more energy to digest them. Also try and include protein in every meal as this makes you feel full for longer, and a little bit of calcium in your diet helps fat to pass through unabsorbed.
Any little exercise will increase your metabolism. Just put baby in the buggy and walk for 20 minutes every morning. Dance while you are doing your housework.
Find out where your nearest mother and baby group is or some other kind of activity you can do with your baby. Ask your health visitor for information. You will meet people with the same things in common as you. (they are parents)
Go to www.flylady.net who will help you be more organised and motivated.
Good luck. Remember, there are thousands out there that would love to be in your shoes. xxx
Having a baby is a life changing event. I had a baby boy 11 months ago and although I love every moment with him, I do miss the freedom I once had as well. When you look at your list of problems it must seem very overwhelming for you so try tackling them one at a time.
I joined a new mom's group when my son was 10 weeks old. We would get together once a week and chat. I found that it really helped me socialize and meet new people who were in the same stage in life as me. Although I do not go anymore, I really hit it off with one mom and we talk and get together all the time. Perhaps if you do this you will feel less isolated.
As for exercise, try and schedule a good 1 hour walk every day. The fresh air will be good for you and your baby. Start slow, then work up to a brisk pace. Walking is terrific exercise.
The sex life does go down the tubes in the first few months after you have the baby....but it will get better. Do you have a friend or family that you would feel comfortable leaving your baby with for a few hours? If so, then schedule a regular ';date night'; for you and your husband after he has recovered from his surgurey. Also, see if your friends and famly could come by occasionally for a few hours to give you a break from the mom and wife duties, especially while your husband is recovering.
Anyways, I hope that this helps and that you feel more optimistic soon. Being a mom is a demanding job and it is normal to feel overwhelmed nce in a while so don't be so hard on yourself.
my advise is dont start a business up next year the likely hood is it will collapse or you will. do what most mothers do and put your life on hold. My daughter is 4 has just started school so i can now go to college.i have had to wait 4 years for this so now i have the determination needed to make it a success without anything else being effected. Unfortunatlly you cant have it all in one go.
you will get youre figure back exspecially because you are breast feeding and youre just feeling depressed about everything you need to get out once in a while and you need to beleive in youre self you can do anything you put youre mind too and it is hard work to be successful in life you can do it ! dont be so hard on youre self and you can find new friends with children and start going to park together or other fun places for kids once you start getting out of the house you will see you will make all kinds of new friends and then you will see youre life hasnt ended or youre freedom just relax and enjoy life as it comes to you beleive in youre self and you will make it through this good luck and happiness
Sounds like you need Grand Parents and a holiday to look forward to
weed, no i'm joking, firstly you need to take things one at a time your problems are'nt going anywhere, so breathe and then decide what is most inportant and tackle that first and then evrything else, remember you are going to have to accept that there are some things you can't fix, your're a woman not a superhero, there is a diffrence
Does anyone have any advice on where to go to school to become a dog groomer or if there is any paid training?
I am wanting to start a career in the dog grooming business and was wondering if anyone had any ideas on where to even start. I applied at local pet stores where grooming is avaliable and looked into schools, but some of them cost more than 2,000. I was wondering if anyone had any idea on this subject..thank you!Does anyone have any advice on where to go to school to become a dog groomer or if there is any paid training?
Petco and Petsmart pay you while you train to become a groomer. You need to work as a bather first, and also have to sign a contract that you will stay with the company for a allotted amount of time, otherwise you will have to pay fees ( Petco requires a year, and you receive a certificate of completion). Another option would be to find a job with a private groomer who is willing to train you on the job. These are good alternatives to costly schools. Remember you do not need a certificate to groom(although it looks good to customers, and I believe once you learn to groom that there are organizations that you can contact, take a grooming test, and receive a certificate) experience is everything.Does anyone have any advice on where to go to school to become a dog groomer or if there is any paid training?
I would study business instead. That way if you change your mind about dog grooming you have other careers to chose from.
Petco and Petsmart pay you while you train to become a groomer. You need to work as a bather first, and also have to sign a contract that you will stay with the company for a allotted amount of time, otherwise you will have to pay fees ( Petco requires a year, and you receive a certificate of completion). Another option would be to find a job with a private groomer who is willing to train you on the job. These are good alternatives to costly schools. Remember you do not need a certificate to groom(although it looks good to customers, and I believe once you learn to groom that there are organizations that you can contact, take a grooming test, and receive a certificate) experience is everything.Does anyone have any advice on where to go to school to become a dog groomer or if there is any paid training?
I would study business instead. That way if you change your mind about dog grooming you have other careers to chose from.
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