I am a diabetic %26amp; also have polosystic disease on my ovaries %26amp; me %26amp; my husband want to have our 3 child. I am on fertility drugs %26amp; nothing yet any good ideasCan any females give me good advice on how to get pregnant when having polosystic ovary disease?
Metformin and clomid are the meds used to treat PCOS. If you can't get pregnant on them usually sorry to say you won't be able to get pregnant. Since you have had 2 children already the chances a third time is great. It just will take time. I have PCOS and we have tried for 4 years for our first child. We just started meds. From experiences with friends, it usually takes no more than a year on metformin to get pregnant.Can any females give me good advice on how to get pregnant when having polosystic ovary disease?
cysts didnt interfere at all with my pregnancies. Nothing you can do will get rid of the cysts
consult your OB-Gyne for medical advice
This is my story. I have pcos too. I am in my 30s. I got in shape, ate right, lost weight (a good bit) and got really healthy. My periods became normal again and I got pregnant 2 weeks after coming off the pill! (I wasn't even trying). But I'm happy to report that I have a beautiful baby boy now. Getting healthy the good old fashioned way is your best option. Again, that's my opinion. Good luck!
Tuesday, November 22, 2011
A learning disability students need some advice about going back to college?
I am 32 years old. I am thinking about going back to college to complete my associates degree. I have been out four years of college. What I need the advice about is the following.
Should I go back to the community college that I left or just transfer to a four year college that has a program and services for learning disability students?A learning disability students need some advice about going back to college?
If it make you feel any better, I also have a learning disability and I went back to college at the age of 35 after dropping out 5 years earlier. Now, almost at the age of 38, I not only earned my Associate's Degree where I graduated with a 3.82 but I started back this past August with the hopes of earning my Bachelor's Degree. Despite my learning disability, my academic standings have grabbed attention from schools such as the University of Virginia and Columbia.
In my honest opinion. I think that you should go back to the community college where you started at, earn you Associate's Degree, and transfer to a nice university that will accept your credits. The next part is totally up to you but I never once brought up the subject that I have a learning disability to any of my instuctors/ professors. In my opinion, the college does not need to know a person's disability status.A learning disability students need some advice about going back to college?
The community college my son attended provided unlimited tutors and extended test time. I would advise complete the AA degree t the community college first. Community college classes are smaller and you can get core courses out of the way. Also, my son benefited from the Associate's degree in that it eliminated the second language requirement when he transferred to the university.
Colleges are not required by law to provide any extra services for disabled students (other than building access) so if you find a four-year program at a place that offers services that is a plus.
the community collegve should have services for studnets with disabilities-if tehy don't theya re in violation of teh law
if you are talking about actaul classes-and you think you need that support-tehn go straight to the 4 year-
what kind of degree do you want-do you ultimately was a 4 year degree-or do you want to stop after your 2 year?
usually the general ed courses in a community college and 4 year state college are similar-
a univeristy may be more difficult
I honestly think that depends on what your goals are. YOu could easily finish up the associates, since that is what you already took, but if you truly want to go to a 4 year college, you should look into transferring what you already have and get started there. Any college has to have supports for LD students. Contact the schools you are interested in and find out what support you could get.
Good luck and good for you for going back!!!!
I would go back to the Community college seeing how you already have been there. Go talk to Services for Students with Disabilities or what every is like that at the school. That is who I go and talk to and they are really nice at helping meet my needs in what I need. Good Luck
Any college should have assisstance for students with disabilities. Check with the college of your choice for more information. I am pretty sure they are required by law to meet your needs.
Should I go back to the community college that I left or just transfer to a four year college that has a program and services for learning disability students?A learning disability students need some advice about going back to college?
If it make you feel any better, I also have a learning disability and I went back to college at the age of 35 after dropping out 5 years earlier. Now, almost at the age of 38, I not only earned my Associate's Degree where I graduated with a 3.82 but I started back this past August with the hopes of earning my Bachelor's Degree. Despite my learning disability, my academic standings have grabbed attention from schools such as the University of Virginia and Columbia.
In my honest opinion. I think that you should go back to the community college where you started at, earn you Associate's Degree, and transfer to a nice university that will accept your credits. The next part is totally up to you but I never once brought up the subject that I have a learning disability to any of my instuctors/ professors. In my opinion, the college does not need to know a person's disability status.A learning disability students need some advice about going back to college?
The community college my son attended provided unlimited tutors and extended test time. I would advise complete the AA degree t the community college first. Community college classes are smaller and you can get core courses out of the way. Also, my son benefited from the Associate's degree in that it eliminated the second language requirement when he transferred to the university.
Colleges are not required by law to provide any extra services for disabled students (other than building access) so if you find a four-year program at a place that offers services that is a plus.
the community collegve should have services for studnets with disabilities-if tehy don't theya re in violation of teh law
if you are talking about actaul classes-and you think you need that support-tehn go straight to the 4 year-
what kind of degree do you want-do you ultimately was a 4 year degree-or do you want to stop after your 2 year?
usually the general ed courses in a community college and 4 year state college are similar-
a univeristy may be more difficult
I honestly think that depends on what your goals are. YOu could easily finish up the associates, since that is what you already took, but if you truly want to go to a 4 year college, you should look into transferring what you already have and get started there. Any college has to have supports for LD students. Contact the schools you are interested in and find out what support you could get.
Good luck and good for you for going back!!!!
I would go back to the Community college seeing how you already have been there. Go talk to Services for Students with Disabilities or what every is like that at the school. That is who I go and talk to and they are really nice at helping meet my needs in what I need. Good Luck
Any college should have assisstance for students with disabilities. Check with the college of your choice for more information. I am pretty sure they are required by law to meet your needs.
Ive heard pros and cons of police auctions can anyone give me some reliable advice?
Ok im thinking about getting a new car. I've been told Police auctions you can get some pretty good vehicles at a pretty cheap price. I dont care about the history of the car or what it was used for. But ive heard only car dealers go there and your lucky if you get the crappiest car they have cause the car dealers always outbid independant people who are there for a vehicle is this true?Ive heard pros and cons of police auctions can anyone give me some reliable advice?
dealers dont regularly use these auctions. the worst idea about these auctions are that you cant drive the vehicle before you buy it. if you want to spend $500-$1000 on a vehicle its ok but you dont know what you are buying.Ive heard pros and cons of police auctions can anyone give me some reliable advice?
You can get pretty good cars from a police auction. There aren't too many dealer's that go to them though because they usually go to dealer's/wholesale auctions. The good thing about going to a police auction is that you can get a good, reliable car for way less than what you would pay anywhere else. But they are sold in as-is condition so be sure to give it a good inspection before you buy or bring a mechanic with you to check it out. Other than that you're good to go.
Police impound auctions can have junkers, or luxury vehicles confiscated from drug dealers. So never know until you go see what's available. And these auctions are not just for dealers. The public can go and bid and, yes, sometimes but not always, dealers will be there bidding against you. But remember, dealers won't pay more than wholesale price, so if you see a nice car and want to bid a slightly higher price, you might get the car. Here's more details:
http://www.leaseguide.com/Articles/polic鈥?/a>
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Most of these were not used in a crime but impounded. People did not think what they owed was worth paying to get them out. Some may be good buys but most are junk.
dealers dont regularly use these auctions. the worst idea about these auctions are that you cant drive the vehicle before you buy it. if you want to spend $500-$1000 on a vehicle its ok but you dont know what you are buying.Ive heard pros and cons of police auctions can anyone give me some reliable advice?
You can get pretty good cars from a police auction. There aren't too many dealer's that go to them though because they usually go to dealer's/wholesale auctions. The good thing about going to a police auction is that you can get a good, reliable car for way less than what you would pay anywhere else. But they are sold in as-is condition so be sure to give it a good inspection before you buy or bring a mechanic with you to check it out. Other than that you're good to go.
Police impound auctions can have junkers, or luxury vehicles confiscated from drug dealers. So never know until you go see what's available. And these auctions are not just for dealers. The public can go and bid and, yes, sometimes but not always, dealers will be there bidding against you. But remember, dealers won't pay more than wholesale price, so if you see a nice car and want to bid a slightly higher price, you might get the car. Here's more details:
http://www.leaseguide.com/Articles/polic鈥?/a>
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Most of these were not used in a crime but impounded. People did not think what they owed was worth paying to get them out. Some may be good buys but most are junk.
I need some good advice from someone with experience with this?
Im jewish and my fiance is christian. We decided to raise our kids jewish when we have them, as well as celebrate the jewish holidays in our home. His family is not too happy about this, and if it were the other way around, my family wouldnt be either. We re having a jewish wedding and I dont want to have tension or awkwardness at my wedding. What's the best way to approach the situation before it becomes an issue?I need some good advice from someone with experience with this?
Explain that you are Jewish and therefore according to your religion your children are Jewish also. Sit down and explain what the ceremony will be like and what each part means.
If they wanted their son to have married a Christian they should have indoctrinated him with that trait while bringing him up.I need some good advice from someone with experience with this?
Someone I worked with was Jewish and her husband Christian. They participated in both holidays. They had a wedding ceremony that worked with both religions. And their kids grew up with both religions.
When the kids were old enough to decide for themselves, they did. 2 went with the Jewish faith, one with the Christian. She did not go to Christian services, he did not go to Jewish services - except around important Holidays - then the respected each others.
Marriage is a difficult thing, it is the blending of 2 lives into 1, 2 families into a new one, adding different religions makes it harder. You both have to understand each others backgrounds and find a way to blend them into something that is acceptable to you and your families. Like it our not, his family is now a part of yours and from here on out it will be a constant job blending and understanding.
Below are some links to interfaith weddings...
Why not let your children know both the Jewish and Christian teachings?
That way they can decide. And you could celebrate both the jewish and christian holidays.
As for your wedding, it should be how you want it.
The best way to approach it is not to sweep it under the rug. Talk about it with everyone. Include his family in your celebrations and explain what your rituals are and be open to learning and celebrating the Christian rituals that they have. Remember, you both have the same Old Testament. As long as you communicate about it all, it shouldn't be a problem. Good luck and congrats.
Lynn, it sounds like you need to learn that marriage (mine has lasted for 28 years) is a series of comprises. I feel that you think that this is only your marriage and in a sense it is , but also remember that his parents will be the grandparents of your children. I realize that your faith is important to you , but theirs is important to them. Try to celebrate all of them to make things easier and keep everyone happy, that is unless you don't care about how his parents feel. I guess that what I am trying to say is to attempt to combine both and get the best of both worlds. Good luck
You two can probably work it out and make it work just fine. Sounds like you all ready have. Pressure from in laws can ruin everything. You both need to tell them that's it's all ready settled and you won't discuss it. Yeah, good luck with that.
I was catholic, she was protestant. My in laws were controlling people. After 19 years they finally convinced their daughter to leave me. She moved in with an unemployed used car salesman!!!??? Left me with 4 girls to raise and all the bills. She maxed all the plastic before she left too.
In the long run she did us a favor. We lived well after she left.
I hope you can do better than this.
Good luck. You have made wise choices, hope the pressure won't get to you.
do both, have a Jewish/christian wedding
celebrate both holidays, that is what my client does.
then the children have the power of knowing both controlling religions %26amp; can choose the lies they want to follow.
this will cancel the b.s. you will have with in-laws on both sides
You are the one that would be creating awkwardness by subscribing to all of the BS stipulations. Hey listen, whatever will be, will be... Love has no religion, embrace both worlds and just be happy. And whomever has a problem with it, too bad. Misery loves company
Why not celebrate both? You should share with your child both of your beliefs. If you are not willing to do that then you have to accept that one of the families will be unhappy.
yah i think that you should just have a normal wedding.
that way both families are equally offended and nobody feels to tense about the other family being more favored.
have an unorthodox wedding and upset everyone equally
you are raising your kids jewish? i say let the kids determine their own faith when they are older
why would they be happy? i mean come on, your people killed the son of God......
try combining things from both of your religions at your wedding
weird
Explain that you are Jewish and therefore according to your religion your children are Jewish also. Sit down and explain what the ceremony will be like and what each part means.
If they wanted their son to have married a Christian they should have indoctrinated him with that trait while bringing him up.I need some good advice from someone with experience with this?
Someone I worked with was Jewish and her husband Christian. They participated in both holidays. They had a wedding ceremony that worked with both religions. And their kids grew up with both religions.
When the kids were old enough to decide for themselves, they did. 2 went with the Jewish faith, one with the Christian. She did not go to Christian services, he did not go to Jewish services - except around important Holidays - then the respected each others.
Marriage is a difficult thing, it is the blending of 2 lives into 1, 2 families into a new one, adding different religions makes it harder. You both have to understand each others backgrounds and find a way to blend them into something that is acceptable to you and your families. Like it our not, his family is now a part of yours and from here on out it will be a constant job blending and understanding.
Below are some links to interfaith weddings...
Why not let your children know both the Jewish and Christian teachings?
That way they can decide. And you could celebrate both the jewish and christian holidays.
As for your wedding, it should be how you want it.
The best way to approach it is not to sweep it under the rug. Talk about it with everyone. Include his family in your celebrations and explain what your rituals are and be open to learning and celebrating the Christian rituals that they have. Remember, you both have the same Old Testament. As long as you communicate about it all, it shouldn't be a problem. Good luck and congrats.
Lynn, it sounds like you need to learn that marriage (mine has lasted for 28 years) is a series of comprises. I feel that you think that this is only your marriage and in a sense it is , but also remember that his parents will be the grandparents of your children. I realize that your faith is important to you , but theirs is important to them. Try to celebrate all of them to make things easier and keep everyone happy, that is unless you don't care about how his parents feel. I guess that what I am trying to say is to attempt to combine both and get the best of both worlds. Good luck
You two can probably work it out and make it work just fine. Sounds like you all ready have. Pressure from in laws can ruin everything. You both need to tell them that's it's all ready settled and you won't discuss it. Yeah, good luck with that.
I was catholic, she was protestant. My in laws were controlling people. After 19 years they finally convinced their daughter to leave me. She moved in with an unemployed used car salesman!!!??? Left me with 4 girls to raise and all the bills. She maxed all the plastic before she left too.
In the long run she did us a favor. We lived well after she left.
I hope you can do better than this.
Good luck. You have made wise choices, hope the pressure won't get to you.
do both, have a Jewish/christian wedding
celebrate both holidays, that is what my client does.
then the children have the power of knowing both controlling religions %26amp; can choose the lies they want to follow.
this will cancel the b.s. you will have with in-laws on both sides
You are the one that would be creating awkwardness by subscribing to all of the BS stipulations. Hey listen, whatever will be, will be... Love has no religion, embrace both worlds and just be happy. And whomever has a problem with it, too bad. Misery loves company
Why not celebrate both? You should share with your child both of your beliefs. If you are not willing to do that then you have to accept that one of the families will be unhappy.
yah i think that you should just have a normal wedding.
that way both families are equally offended and nobody feels to tense about the other family being more favored.
have an unorthodox wedding and upset everyone equally
you are raising your kids jewish? i say let the kids determine their own faith when they are older
why would they be happy? i mean come on, your people killed the son of God......
try combining things from both of your religions at your wedding
weird
What kind of a advice should i give her?
I have a friend whose a freshman in high school and she's dating a junior in highschool. her b/f wants to have a baby with her and she is not ready for it but since she likes babies she wants to have her own but not right now. after considering all the responsibilities for the babies and every single thing that she should consider...she's confused she doesnt know what to say. what should she do? and also what should i tell her to do?What kind of a advice should i give her?
1st, I'd tell your friend to break it off with this guy %26amp; under no circumstances should she sleep with him. He sounds like a real creep to me. If she has a baby with him, I seriously doubt if he'll be willing or able to help her in any way.
Then, I'd advise her to meet with some teen moms. They can tell her 1st-hand how hard it is to care for a baby at this age. It's hard enough at any age.
When she's much older %26amp; more settled, with the right man, then perhaps she'll be ready for children.
I pray that she'll listen. Good luck.What kind of a advice should i give her?
having a baby sounds easy... yeah you can point out the costs, how she going to raise it ,How it will affect her family, her school and all.. But 1 thing normally does not get stated, the medical side, get her facts about how this effects her body %26amp; babys..
she not medically old enought to have a normal birth, If she very lucky she be able to have a vagial birth (that hurts like hell) more then likely she have to have a c-section...
pregnant teenagers are especially vulnerable to complications, such as high blood pressure, anemia, and, most troubling, premature delivery %26amp; miscarages. Their babies are more likely to be too small at birth and often have underdeveloped lungs, vision problems, or a host of other ailments
Everyone likes babies but it's not all fun and games when you have to take care of one 24 hours a day 7 days a week for the next 18 years. I'm 28 years old, I work 50 hours a week and go to college full-time-finally! I have a good job but I still live paycheck to paycheck because children grow fast and they need a whole new wardrobe every six months or so and it's not cheap. My daughter is 8 years old and me and her father are still together but money has been tight and we get angry easy because we don't get much freetime and when we do we don't have the money to do anything. Your friend may think she's in love right now, but I was to with everyone of the guys I dated during high school! She's young, she'll meet and fall in love with lots more guys. Tell her not to settle on this one quite yet. Stay in school and have a baby after she owns her own home. She'll have the money and be able to enjoy her family much more.
Tell her to cut him off and keep her legs closed.
First of all, you need to tell her to get away from that guy. Any 16 year old kid (just a guess but thats an average for a HS junior) that WANTS a kid...is out of his mind. He most likely just wants to have sex with her, but thats a messed up way of going about it. Why don't you take her somewhere that she can talk with young moms, see the struggle they go through every day and hear it from them. You need to make sure she knows that just becase she ';likes'; babies..she is nowhere near ready to have her own. Maybe just one night at a house with an infant waking her up screaming in the middle of the night will change her mind.
She's too young. Babies are a lot of work! I have two babies under the age of two and I'm married and I still have trouble. Tell her she should wait until she's in a committed, adult relationship..its hard enough to support a baby on two incomes, nevermind on an income of a couple still in high school!
tell her to SAY NO hejust wants to have sex he wont be there odds are to take care of that baby. she needs to break it off with him NOW
Have her to tell him to get one of those dolls that act just exactly like a real baby. Have him take care of it for a week and then see if he still really wants to have a baby. Babies are great, but their not all fun and games. Tell her to tell him NO!!! They are both wayyyyy to young to even be considering having children. She needs to have some respect for herself.
I'm wondering why he is so eager to start a family... but if she has ANY reservations about having children, then she shouldn't get pregnant. Parenthood is a relatively permanent condition.
Tell her that if she has a baby now, she seriously limits her chances of having a stable, secure family at any time in the future. She should babysit for a family with small children. If she was around babies and children, maybe she would see how much work it is.
to get the hell away from him and if this guy wants a baby so bad he needs to marry her first and they should be married for a couple of years
tell him no, that she is too young for that.
Take it from some one who knows. Tell her finish school first.........get a job and then have a baby. Birth control is what you tell her!!
I had a kid in high school and life was a real struggle for awhile. Babies are a major responsibility.
Men will say anything to get a girl to put out. If your neighborhood has a parenting class, have her take that...a lot of times they have you take care of a computerized baby...not fun. Also, she has her whole life ahead of her to have a baby...why when she's a freshmen...maybe after high school and college, but if she has a baby b4 then, it will be very hard for her to achieve her dreams.
i think u should tell her to wait until she is out of school and is financially stable to have a Babbie and can give it every thing it needs and then some.i had my son when i was 19 and i still some times have trouble coming up with the money for thing that come up that cost u. its wounder full that she wants kids but she needs to make shur that this is the man she wants to be in her life for the rest of her life .not just for her but for the kid/kids to be . If this is truly what he wants then he will respect that and wait for her.
1st, I'd tell your friend to break it off with this guy %26amp; under no circumstances should she sleep with him. He sounds like a real creep to me. If she has a baby with him, I seriously doubt if he'll be willing or able to help her in any way.
Then, I'd advise her to meet with some teen moms. They can tell her 1st-hand how hard it is to care for a baby at this age. It's hard enough at any age.
When she's much older %26amp; more settled, with the right man, then perhaps she'll be ready for children.
I pray that she'll listen. Good luck.What kind of a advice should i give her?
having a baby sounds easy... yeah you can point out the costs, how she going to raise it ,How it will affect her family, her school and all.. But 1 thing normally does not get stated, the medical side, get her facts about how this effects her body %26amp; babys..
she not medically old enought to have a normal birth, If she very lucky she be able to have a vagial birth (that hurts like hell) more then likely she have to have a c-section...
pregnant teenagers are especially vulnerable to complications, such as high blood pressure, anemia, and, most troubling, premature delivery %26amp; miscarages. Their babies are more likely to be too small at birth and often have underdeveloped lungs, vision problems, or a host of other ailments
Everyone likes babies but it's not all fun and games when you have to take care of one 24 hours a day 7 days a week for the next 18 years. I'm 28 years old, I work 50 hours a week and go to college full-time-finally! I have a good job but I still live paycheck to paycheck because children grow fast and they need a whole new wardrobe every six months or so and it's not cheap. My daughter is 8 years old and me and her father are still together but money has been tight and we get angry easy because we don't get much freetime and when we do we don't have the money to do anything. Your friend may think she's in love right now, but I was to with everyone of the guys I dated during high school! She's young, she'll meet and fall in love with lots more guys. Tell her not to settle on this one quite yet. Stay in school and have a baby after she owns her own home. She'll have the money and be able to enjoy her family much more.
Tell her to cut him off and keep her legs closed.
First of all, you need to tell her to get away from that guy. Any 16 year old kid (just a guess but thats an average for a HS junior) that WANTS a kid...is out of his mind. He most likely just wants to have sex with her, but thats a messed up way of going about it. Why don't you take her somewhere that she can talk with young moms, see the struggle they go through every day and hear it from them. You need to make sure she knows that just becase she ';likes'; babies..she is nowhere near ready to have her own. Maybe just one night at a house with an infant waking her up screaming in the middle of the night will change her mind.
She's too young. Babies are a lot of work! I have two babies under the age of two and I'm married and I still have trouble. Tell her she should wait until she's in a committed, adult relationship..its hard enough to support a baby on two incomes, nevermind on an income of a couple still in high school!
tell her to SAY NO hejust wants to have sex he wont be there odds are to take care of that baby. she needs to break it off with him NOW
Have her to tell him to get one of those dolls that act just exactly like a real baby. Have him take care of it for a week and then see if he still really wants to have a baby. Babies are great, but their not all fun and games. Tell her to tell him NO!!! They are both wayyyyy to young to even be considering having children. She needs to have some respect for herself.
I'm wondering why he is so eager to start a family... but if she has ANY reservations about having children, then she shouldn't get pregnant. Parenthood is a relatively permanent condition.
Tell her that if she has a baby now, she seriously limits her chances of having a stable, secure family at any time in the future. She should babysit for a family with small children. If she was around babies and children, maybe she would see how much work it is.
to get the hell away from him and if this guy wants a baby so bad he needs to marry her first and they should be married for a couple of years
tell him no, that she is too young for that.
Take it from some one who knows. Tell her finish school first.........get a job and then have a baby. Birth control is what you tell her!!
I had a kid in high school and life was a real struggle for awhile. Babies are a major responsibility.
Men will say anything to get a girl to put out. If your neighborhood has a parenting class, have her take that...a lot of times they have you take care of a computerized baby...not fun. Also, she has her whole life ahead of her to have a baby...why when she's a freshmen...maybe after high school and college, but if she has a baby b4 then, it will be very hard for her to achieve her dreams.
i think u should tell her to wait until she is out of school and is financially stable to have a Babbie and can give it every thing it needs and then some.i had my son when i was 19 and i still some times have trouble coming up with the money for thing that come up that cost u. its wounder full that she wants kids but she needs to make shur that this is the man she wants to be in her life for the rest of her life .not just for her but for the kid/kids to be . If this is truly what he wants then he will respect that and wait for her.
Can you give me advice on how to be relaxed and optimistic?
I am so pessimistic and stressed at the moment. My problems are:
1- I just had a baby 4 months ago, I love her so much and I am happily taking care of her needs, but I have lost my freedom and don't know how to cope with the new life.
2- I am overweight, 60 kgs when I should be 50 kgs with 160cm height. I can't go on a diet because I am breastfeeding, and excercising is just too much work. I excercise every now and then but it doesn't help shaping my body at all.
3- My husband has a medical problem and is having an operation in 2 weeks, regarding our sex life, as we haven't slept together for 9 months.
4- I just can't seem to be interested in any sort of social contact and I just stay at home all the time, with seeing no body or calling no body. I want to make new friends, but I feel like I have nothing to tell them, or I hate my body and can't find a good outfit.
5- I want to start a self-business next year and I am now researching for it. But everything seems a hard work.Can you give me advice on how to be relaxed and optimistic?
Its so tough, I guess just realize there are so many of us struggling. One thing I do to motivate myself is to eliminate any form of self-pity or regret. Useless traits. I saw these sisters who's heads were connected and one of the women was all short and deformed and had to be lugged around on a table with wheels. Made me realize that having a normal head and body is something that I take for granted. Optimism is about at its core appreciating what you do have - the fact that you do have a husband, and that you do have a child, and that you do have a mind that wants to start a business and try new things, take risks. It's a self-process and so difficult, and no one else can tell you to do it. I think the best way out of misery is to use the frustration to detach a little bit, and let go of the worries. Once you do that you'll find yourself being able to appreciate new things, and do things you didn't think previously possible. You can exercise, however you must start really small as de-motivating as it seems to do a ';half-***'; workout. People get to grandiose and then abandon plans. Forcing in a simple walk each day and some situps and going on from there. It becomes routine, it becomes easier and you hit a point once you start where the exercise actually becomes enjoyable and addictive. That's how people get in such great shape. You think they enjoy it from day one? Doubtful. It sucks. But over time your mind changes and actually craves the exercise which is how people stay so consistent with it. That being said, with your weight I'm not even sure you're really overweight - I don't know kg's... But even if not the exercise is good either way, moving around is scientifically proven to reduce depression.Can you give me advice on how to be relaxed and optimistic?
bless you,
first of all, about your weight, i am no good with kgs so i will give that one a miss but tie that in with your inability to go out of the house and the answer would be simple, go for a walk. however i am the same as youi do not want to leave the house as so much needs to be done and even when it doesnt i just want 'me' time. so i am in a bit of a rut like you.
i deffo cannot find a nice outfit to wear, but one thing i have found solace in is just looking for something you feel comfy in, even if you do have to go for the bigger size for now, you have just had a baby and people will understand.
if you feel restricted by thr breastfeeding why not switch to bottles? you have done more than enough by now and you might feel more free. a contented mother is better for baby.
i feel i have been forgotten about and this is my 2nd baby! people just assume you are too wrapped up in baby talkwhen really you are screaming out for adult conversation. how about having a little party for the girls? you could do ann summers, virgin vie or even body shop now.
i drive and find going out in the car on my own with the cd player blasting helps. otherwise you could try a mother toddler group, i have heard they are really good.
please let me know how you get on,
if you need to chat i am here paulakay212@hotmail.com
Have you tried yoga. Its worth getting a video or dvd and doing it at home. Otherwise join a group. It will relax your mind and get you in to shape.
First, enjoy your baby. They grow way too fast.
Second, don't worry about your weight. Most pregnant women lose a lot of the weight they gained during their pregnancy after the birth. Things will even out with your schedule once you get the hang of things. You'll have more time for excersise.
As for you not having any intercourse with your husband for the past 9 months, WHY? Sex during pregnancy (as long as it isn't too rough) is really good for expecting mothers! Plus, there are PLENTY of other sexual activities besides intercourse that you and your husband can enjoy together.
New friends can be made in the thousands of chatrooms and profile pages on the internet. Here's a good one: http://www.okcupid.com
You can meet other people like you in your area and it's free.
The business will have to be put on hold. If only for a little while. Your baby comes first now. (At least it should.)
Things that help me with stress:
-A scalding hot bath/shower. Man, are they GOOD! Especially after a long day. The heat helps loosen muscles that have become stiff throughout the day.
-Sex. You said there's some kind of thing going on but that doesn't mean other things aren't off the table. A good orgasm can release major amounts of stress.
-A massage. Coming from your husband, this of course can lead to other things. (Wink, wink!) It can also serve a purpose as to reinforcing your bond as parents by having some time to yourselves that means something. (Obviously when the baby is sleeping.)
I'm sure you can think of other things that can help you relieve stress that only will work for you.
And congrats on the new baby!
First of all, congrats on the new baby! It must be both exciting and scary at the same time!
I know it's hard to right now, but remind yourself that all this stuff is temporary. It sounds like you are looking ahead with your business plans, and that's a good way to be! You are being optimistic in believing that it will be a success once it's carried out.
Your body is still recovering from a major event, and you're still breastfeeding, so there are still different hormone fluctuations in your body, and unfortunately it's making you feel stressed and very tired at the same time. Know that time will change all these things...your beautiful baby will be weaned off your breast and your body will return to ';normal';. Make sure you go to all of your scheduled follow ups, and the baby's also. This way, should it be something else going on, you can catch it before it becomes more involved. Even though your tired, try your best to work out...even if it is just a walk around the block...the exercise will help you feel better and less stressed (and you can feel like you are doing something towards weight loss!)
I'm sure you've sat down and talk to your husband in depth about your feelings. If not, do it! Let him express himself too...together, you both have experienced a major life event, and there may be some concerns and frustrations to let out. If all else fails, try some counseling. To me, your situation sounds emotionally-based, and once those issues are resolved, I think the physical intimacy will return.
Keep researching your business plan, even if you can only think about it for a few minutes a day, because once your situation changes and you get your ';old self'; back, you'll want to dive right into it.
Everything will work out in the end...it just will take time. Good luck!
how can you say you are overweight i am 64 kg and about 155cm height.according to my body mass index this weight is fine unless the doc was just trying to make me feel better.have you spoken to your doctor about these feelings it could be post natal depression.
Sounds to me like you have post natal depression. Go see your maternal health nurse for a local support group and see your doc in case you need to go onto anti depressants. You will be surprised at how common it is. Getting the right support makes all the difference.
Sarah: -
I know how you feel. My son is 10 months old and he is my life.
Before I had a baby I had a very busy life, I worked 40 hours a week, was a semi professional dancer, had lots of hobbies including singing and playing piano, I was attractive, curvy and bubbly with waist length hair.
Well now I have the opposite problem to you in that breastfeeding has made me lose too much weight and I look like crap. Really skinny, haggard and unnattractive. My hair fell out so badly after my baby was born I had to have it all cut off to a layered shoulder length bob which I hate, it looks lank and makes my face look thinner and also makes me look older.
I don't work anymore, and haven't danced for 18 months, I never have the time or energy to sing or take a music lesson. I never go out or do anything. In fact the highlight of my week is mum and baby group on a Thursday and going to my mums to take her shopping!
I feel better in a way to know that I'm not alone in all this. My partner is not always helpful, he thinks I shouldn't have any social life and should get a part time job and just work and look after the baby. He works long hours for low pay and is always tired and grouchy. We don't have much of a relationship left it seems sometimes.
I don't know if you're like me but part of my problem is that I have no family and friends nearby - the only family I have is my mum, who is 72 and not in good health, and my brother who is 29 and wrapped up with himself. They live about 13 miles away. My partner's family live 250 miles away so they cannot help. As a result there is noone to look after my baby for an afternoon or something so that I can out and do something for myself.
And when I do get the time, ie when my partner comes home at night, I'm too tired and can't motivate myself to get out and do things! I'm ashamed to let my old friends see me as I look fo skinny and haggard and not like my old self.
I know I should be looking for a part time job, I've thought about trying to do things to earn money for myself, giving piano lessons at home or trying to start an online business but to be honest I don't have the energy or the motivation.
I can only hope that things will get better, I wish I could offer you some practical advice but I don't feel in a position to do so as my situation is so similar. Lots of others have given you some good advice and I can only hope that knowing you are not alone in feeling like this will help a little!
Good luck and email me if you'd like to!!
sounds like you are depressed and overwhelmed.
you say you lost freedom taking care of baby. Thats not true. there is alot of freedom taking care of baby and motherhood teaches you to be creative. You can still go everywhere and do everything. You need to find different ways to do stuff when you have a baby but they are very adaptable . And if you need a break, get a sitter, or ask a relative.
As far as your weight, exercise is hard just like labor because its work. When you want it bad enough you will do it. Exercise will help you feel better physically which will help mentally. You can get back in shape. i've had 6 and my youngest was just born this mothers day and I am a size 5 . You have to want it.
Good your hubby is getting medical help for his problem that should do you both good.
Go out and find a park and take baby outside for some air and you will meet moms . Don't you think you may find other moms who feel the same way ? They don't care what you wear, they arent dating you.
As far as business.. .. How Do You Eat An Elephant ???????? One bite at a time ! Hard work is hard. You will be okay. go see doc for checkup.And remember.. you are what you think so make it something beautiful. good luck.
With regarding your weight. You can make changes to your diet whilst breast feeding that will help you lose weight. Try to eat products with less than 4% fat, and try and eat foods that are not processed, because your body will take more energy to digest them. Also try and include protein in every meal as this makes you feel full for longer, and a little bit of calcium in your diet helps fat to pass through unabsorbed.
Any little exercise will increase your metabolism. Just put baby in the buggy and walk for 20 minutes every morning. Dance while you are doing your housework.
Find out where your nearest mother and baby group is or some other kind of activity you can do with your baby. Ask your health visitor for information. You will meet people with the same things in common as you. (they are parents)
Go to www.flylady.net who will help you be more organised and motivated.
Good luck. Remember, there are thousands out there that would love to be in your shoes. xxx
Having a baby is a life changing event. I had a baby boy 11 months ago and although I love every moment with him, I do miss the freedom I once had as well. When you look at your list of problems it must seem very overwhelming for you so try tackling them one at a time.
I joined a new mom's group when my son was 10 weeks old. We would get together once a week and chat. I found that it really helped me socialize and meet new people who were in the same stage in life as me. Although I do not go anymore, I really hit it off with one mom and we talk and get together all the time. Perhaps if you do this you will feel less isolated.
As for exercise, try and schedule a good 1 hour walk every day. The fresh air will be good for you and your baby. Start slow, then work up to a brisk pace. Walking is terrific exercise.
The sex life does go down the tubes in the first few months after you have the baby....but it will get better. Do you have a friend or family that you would feel comfortable leaving your baby with for a few hours? If so, then schedule a regular ';date night'; for you and your husband after he has recovered from his surgurey. Also, see if your friends and famly could come by occasionally for a few hours to give you a break from the mom and wife duties, especially while your husband is recovering.
Anyways, I hope that this helps and that you feel more optimistic soon. Being a mom is a demanding job and it is normal to feel overwhelmed nce in a while so don't be so hard on yourself.
my advise is dont start a business up next year the likely hood is it will collapse or you will. do what most mothers do and put your life on hold. My daughter is 4 has just started school so i can now go to college.i have had to wait 4 years for this so now i have the determination needed to make it a success without anything else being effected. Unfortunatlly you cant have it all in one go.
you will get youre figure back exspecially because you are breast feeding and youre just feeling depressed about everything you need to get out once in a while and you need to beleive in youre self you can do anything you put youre mind too and it is hard work to be successful in life you can do it ! dont be so hard on youre self and you can find new friends with children and start going to park together or other fun places for kids once you start getting out of the house you will see you will make all kinds of new friends and then you will see youre life hasnt ended or youre freedom just relax and enjoy life as it comes to you beleive in youre self and you will make it through this good luck and happiness
Sounds like you need Grand Parents and a holiday to look forward to
weed, no i'm joking, firstly you need to take things one at a time your problems are'nt going anywhere, so breathe and then decide what is most inportant and tackle that first and then evrything else, remember you are going to have to accept that there are some things you can't fix, your're a woman not a superhero, there is a diffrence
1- I just had a baby 4 months ago, I love her so much and I am happily taking care of her needs, but I have lost my freedom and don't know how to cope with the new life.
2- I am overweight, 60 kgs when I should be 50 kgs with 160cm height. I can't go on a diet because I am breastfeeding, and excercising is just too much work. I excercise every now and then but it doesn't help shaping my body at all.
3- My husband has a medical problem and is having an operation in 2 weeks, regarding our sex life, as we haven't slept together for 9 months.
4- I just can't seem to be interested in any sort of social contact and I just stay at home all the time, with seeing no body or calling no body. I want to make new friends, but I feel like I have nothing to tell them, or I hate my body and can't find a good outfit.
5- I want to start a self-business next year and I am now researching for it. But everything seems a hard work.Can you give me advice on how to be relaxed and optimistic?
Its so tough, I guess just realize there are so many of us struggling. One thing I do to motivate myself is to eliminate any form of self-pity or regret. Useless traits. I saw these sisters who's heads were connected and one of the women was all short and deformed and had to be lugged around on a table with wheels. Made me realize that having a normal head and body is something that I take for granted. Optimism is about at its core appreciating what you do have - the fact that you do have a husband, and that you do have a child, and that you do have a mind that wants to start a business and try new things, take risks. It's a self-process and so difficult, and no one else can tell you to do it. I think the best way out of misery is to use the frustration to detach a little bit, and let go of the worries. Once you do that you'll find yourself being able to appreciate new things, and do things you didn't think previously possible. You can exercise, however you must start really small as de-motivating as it seems to do a ';half-***'; workout. People get to grandiose and then abandon plans. Forcing in a simple walk each day and some situps and going on from there. It becomes routine, it becomes easier and you hit a point once you start where the exercise actually becomes enjoyable and addictive. That's how people get in such great shape. You think they enjoy it from day one? Doubtful. It sucks. But over time your mind changes and actually craves the exercise which is how people stay so consistent with it. That being said, with your weight I'm not even sure you're really overweight - I don't know kg's... But even if not the exercise is good either way, moving around is scientifically proven to reduce depression.Can you give me advice on how to be relaxed and optimistic?
bless you,
first of all, about your weight, i am no good with kgs so i will give that one a miss but tie that in with your inability to go out of the house and the answer would be simple, go for a walk. however i am the same as youi do not want to leave the house as so much needs to be done and even when it doesnt i just want 'me' time. so i am in a bit of a rut like you.
i deffo cannot find a nice outfit to wear, but one thing i have found solace in is just looking for something you feel comfy in, even if you do have to go for the bigger size for now, you have just had a baby and people will understand.
if you feel restricted by thr breastfeeding why not switch to bottles? you have done more than enough by now and you might feel more free. a contented mother is better for baby.
i feel i have been forgotten about and this is my 2nd baby! people just assume you are too wrapped up in baby talkwhen really you are screaming out for adult conversation. how about having a little party for the girls? you could do ann summers, virgin vie or even body shop now.
i drive and find going out in the car on my own with the cd player blasting helps. otherwise you could try a mother toddler group, i have heard they are really good.
please let me know how you get on,
if you need to chat i am here paulakay212@hotmail.com
Have you tried yoga. Its worth getting a video or dvd and doing it at home. Otherwise join a group. It will relax your mind and get you in to shape.
First, enjoy your baby. They grow way too fast.
Second, don't worry about your weight. Most pregnant women lose a lot of the weight they gained during their pregnancy after the birth. Things will even out with your schedule once you get the hang of things. You'll have more time for excersise.
As for you not having any intercourse with your husband for the past 9 months, WHY? Sex during pregnancy (as long as it isn't too rough) is really good for expecting mothers! Plus, there are PLENTY of other sexual activities besides intercourse that you and your husband can enjoy together.
New friends can be made in the thousands of chatrooms and profile pages on the internet. Here's a good one: http://www.okcupid.com
You can meet other people like you in your area and it's free.
The business will have to be put on hold. If only for a little while. Your baby comes first now. (At least it should.)
Things that help me with stress:
-A scalding hot bath/shower. Man, are they GOOD! Especially after a long day. The heat helps loosen muscles that have become stiff throughout the day.
-Sex. You said there's some kind of thing going on but that doesn't mean other things aren't off the table. A good orgasm can release major amounts of stress.
-A massage. Coming from your husband, this of course can lead to other things. (Wink, wink!) It can also serve a purpose as to reinforcing your bond as parents by having some time to yourselves that means something. (Obviously when the baby is sleeping.)
I'm sure you can think of other things that can help you relieve stress that only will work for you.
And congrats on the new baby!
First of all, congrats on the new baby! It must be both exciting and scary at the same time!
I know it's hard to right now, but remind yourself that all this stuff is temporary. It sounds like you are looking ahead with your business plans, and that's a good way to be! You are being optimistic in believing that it will be a success once it's carried out.
Your body is still recovering from a major event, and you're still breastfeeding, so there are still different hormone fluctuations in your body, and unfortunately it's making you feel stressed and very tired at the same time. Know that time will change all these things...your beautiful baby will be weaned off your breast and your body will return to ';normal';. Make sure you go to all of your scheduled follow ups, and the baby's also. This way, should it be something else going on, you can catch it before it becomes more involved. Even though your tired, try your best to work out...even if it is just a walk around the block...the exercise will help you feel better and less stressed (and you can feel like you are doing something towards weight loss!)
I'm sure you've sat down and talk to your husband in depth about your feelings. If not, do it! Let him express himself too...together, you both have experienced a major life event, and there may be some concerns and frustrations to let out. If all else fails, try some counseling. To me, your situation sounds emotionally-based, and once those issues are resolved, I think the physical intimacy will return.
Keep researching your business plan, even if you can only think about it for a few minutes a day, because once your situation changes and you get your ';old self'; back, you'll want to dive right into it.
Everything will work out in the end...it just will take time. Good luck!
how can you say you are overweight i am 64 kg and about 155cm height.according to my body mass index this weight is fine unless the doc was just trying to make me feel better.have you spoken to your doctor about these feelings it could be post natal depression.
Sounds to me like you have post natal depression. Go see your maternal health nurse for a local support group and see your doc in case you need to go onto anti depressants. You will be surprised at how common it is. Getting the right support makes all the difference.
Sarah: -
I know how you feel. My son is 10 months old and he is my life.
Before I had a baby I had a very busy life, I worked 40 hours a week, was a semi professional dancer, had lots of hobbies including singing and playing piano, I was attractive, curvy and bubbly with waist length hair.
Well now I have the opposite problem to you in that breastfeeding has made me lose too much weight and I look like crap. Really skinny, haggard and unnattractive. My hair fell out so badly after my baby was born I had to have it all cut off to a layered shoulder length bob which I hate, it looks lank and makes my face look thinner and also makes me look older.
I don't work anymore, and haven't danced for 18 months, I never have the time or energy to sing or take a music lesson. I never go out or do anything. In fact the highlight of my week is mum and baby group on a Thursday and going to my mums to take her shopping!
I feel better in a way to know that I'm not alone in all this. My partner is not always helpful, he thinks I shouldn't have any social life and should get a part time job and just work and look after the baby. He works long hours for low pay and is always tired and grouchy. We don't have much of a relationship left it seems sometimes.
I don't know if you're like me but part of my problem is that I have no family and friends nearby - the only family I have is my mum, who is 72 and not in good health, and my brother who is 29 and wrapped up with himself. They live about 13 miles away. My partner's family live 250 miles away so they cannot help. As a result there is noone to look after my baby for an afternoon or something so that I can out and do something for myself.
And when I do get the time, ie when my partner comes home at night, I'm too tired and can't motivate myself to get out and do things! I'm ashamed to let my old friends see me as I look fo skinny and haggard and not like my old self.
I know I should be looking for a part time job, I've thought about trying to do things to earn money for myself, giving piano lessons at home or trying to start an online business but to be honest I don't have the energy or the motivation.
I can only hope that things will get better, I wish I could offer you some practical advice but I don't feel in a position to do so as my situation is so similar. Lots of others have given you some good advice and I can only hope that knowing you are not alone in feeling like this will help a little!
Good luck and email me if you'd like to!!
sounds like you are depressed and overwhelmed.
you say you lost freedom taking care of baby. Thats not true. there is alot of freedom taking care of baby and motherhood teaches you to be creative. You can still go everywhere and do everything. You need to find different ways to do stuff when you have a baby but they are very adaptable . And if you need a break, get a sitter, or ask a relative.
As far as your weight, exercise is hard just like labor because its work. When you want it bad enough you will do it. Exercise will help you feel better physically which will help mentally. You can get back in shape. i've had 6 and my youngest was just born this mothers day and I am a size 5 . You have to want it.
Good your hubby is getting medical help for his problem that should do you both good.
Go out and find a park and take baby outside for some air and you will meet moms . Don't you think you may find other moms who feel the same way ? They don't care what you wear, they arent dating you.
As far as business.. .. How Do You Eat An Elephant ???????? One bite at a time ! Hard work is hard. You will be okay. go see doc for checkup.And remember.. you are what you think so make it something beautiful. good luck.
With regarding your weight. You can make changes to your diet whilst breast feeding that will help you lose weight. Try to eat products with less than 4% fat, and try and eat foods that are not processed, because your body will take more energy to digest them. Also try and include protein in every meal as this makes you feel full for longer, and a little bit of calcium in your diet helps fat to pass through unabsorbed.
Any little exercise will increase your metabolism. Just put baby in the buggy and walk for 20 minutes every morning. Dance while you are doing your housework.
Find out where your nearest mother and baby group is or some other kind of activity you can do with your baby. Ask your health visitor for information. You will meet people with the same things in common as you. (they are parents)
Go to www.flylady.net who will help you be more organised and motivated.
Good luck. Remember, there are thousands out there that would love to be in your shoes. xxx
Having a baby is a life changing event. I had a baby boy 11 months ago and although I love every moment with him, I do miss the freedom I once had as well. When you look at your list of problems it must seem very overwhelming for you so try tackling them one at a time.
I joined a new mom's group when my son was 10 weeks old. We would get together once a week and chat. I found that it really helped me socialize and meet new people who were in the same stage in life as me. Although I do not go anymore, I really hit it off with one mom and we talk and get together all the time. Perhaps if you do this you will feel less isolated.
As for exercise, try and schedule a good 1 hour walk every day. The fresh air will be good for you and your baby. Start slow, then work up to a brisk pace. Walking is terrific exercise.
The sex life does go down the tubes in the first few months after you have the baby....but it will get better. Do you have a friend or family that you would feel comfortable leaving your baby with for a few hours? If so, then schedule a regular ';date night'; for you and your husband after he has recovered from his surgurey. Also, see if your friends and famly could come by occasionally for a few hours to give you a break from the mom and wife duties, especially while your husband is recovering.
Anyways, I hope that this helps and that you feel more optimistic soon. Being a mom is a demanding job and it is normal to feel overwhelmed nce in a while so don't be so hard on yourself.
my advise is dont start a business up next year the likely hood is it will collapse or you will. do what most mothers do and put your life on hold. My daughter is 4 has just started school so i can now go to college.i have had to wait 4 years for this so now i have the determination needed to make it a success without anything else being effected. Unfortunatlly you cant have it all in one go.
you will get youre figure back exspecially because you are breast feeding and youre just feeling depressed about everything you need to get out once in a while and you need to beleive in youre self you can do anything you put youre mind too and it is hard work to be successful in life you can do it ! dont be so hard on youre self and you can find new friends with children and start going to park together or other fun places for kids once you start getting out of the house you will see you will make all kinds of new friends and then you will see youre life hasnt ended or youre freedom just relax and enjoy life as it comes to you beleive in youre self and you will make it through this good luck and happiness
Sounds like you need Grand Parents and a holiday to look forward to
weed, no i'm joking, firstly you need to take things one at a time your problems are'nt going anywhere, so breathe and then decide what is most inportant and tackle that first and then evrything else, remember you are going to have to accept that there are some things you can't fix, your're a woman not a superhero, there is a diffrence
Does anyone have any advice on where to go to school to become a dog groomer or if there is any paid training?
I am wanting to start a career in the dog grooming business and was wondering if anyone had any ideas on where to even start. I applied at local pet stores where grooming is avaliable and looked into schools, but some of them cost more than 2,000. I was wondering if anyone had any idea on this subject..thank you!Does anyone have any advice on where to go to school to become a dog groomer or if there is any paid training?
Petco and Petsmart pay you while you train to become a groomer. You need to work as a bather first, and also have to sign a contract that you will stay with the company for a allotted amount of time, otherwise you will have to pay fees ( Petco requires a year, and you receive a certificate of completion). Another option would be to find a job with a private groomer who is willing to train you on the job. These are good alternatives to costly schools. Remember you do not need a certificate to groom(although it looks good to customers, and I believe once you learn to groom that there are organizations that you can contact, take a grooming test, and receive a certificate) experience is everything.Does anyone have any advice on where to go to school to become a dog groomer or if there is any paid training?
I would study business instead. That way if you change your mind about dog grooming you have other careers to chose from.
Petco and Petsmart pay you while you train to become a groomer. You need to work as a bather first, and also have to sign a contract that you will stay with the company for a allotted amount of time, otherwise you will have to pay fees ( Petco requires a year, and you receive a certificate of completion). Another option would be to find a job with a private groomer who is willing to train you on the job. These are good alternatives to costly schools. Remember you do not need a certificate to groom(although it looks good to customers, and I believe once you learn to groom that there are organizations that you can contact, take a grooming test, and receive a certificate) experience is everything.Does anyone have any advice on where to go to school to become a dog groomer or if there is any paid training?
I would study business instead. That way if you change your mind about dog grooming you have other careers to chose from.
Does anyone have any advice on how to eat less?
I eat very healthy and exercise- but my problem is portion size. I am about 7 pounds away from my target weight, and I have come to conclusion that I am eating too much at a sitting, even though its healthy. My main problem is that I eat until I am full-which I know is wrong. My problem is more mental. I was hoping someone might have some tricks to make me feel full or at least feel satisfied with smaller portions. Ideas? Thanks!Does anyone have any advice on how to eat less?
You should eat until you are filled then stop. You should not eat a bite more when you are filled. The advantage of being filled at each meal is that it help you to avoid snacking, which in turn have you eating far lest for the day, while your digestive system is given time to rest. Also you do not run the risk of under eating.
If your diet is mainly vegetables you should not have a problem with your volume as long as you do not go over fill. Vegetables, especially when eaten raw are very nutritious and are not fattening. Most fruits also are not fattening.
Chew your foods longer than you'd normally do. You'll find that you eat far lest. This might take some effort, since you might find that the inclination is to swallow at your normal pace. However with practice you'll start chewing much longer.
Another thing, it is better to eat complex carbohydrates such as yam, potatoes, green bananas, etc. than pasta. Why? Complex carbohydrate has other nutrients necessary for good health. Pasta is pure empty carb - flour - no other nutrients. The calories in pasta is higher than any complex carbohydrate you can think of.
Does anyone have any advice on how to eat less?
By full, do you mean ';I can't possibly eat another bite/I'm stuffed';? If you feel this way as opposed to feeling satisfied, then you are probably eating too much.
Do you eat while you are doing other things? Do you skip meals? Keep a food diary for a while. Don't focus on calories- focus on what you eat, when you eat, how long it takes you to eat, and how you felt before (anything from famished to bored) and after (same idea). After a week or two, take a look. Do you wait hours before meals and have a hard time slowing down? How quickly do you eat? Again, do you eat while you are on the computer or watching TV? All of these things can prevent you from really listening to your body's fullness signals (particularly being distracted while eating). Using smaller plates is a good way to cut portion sizes and still keep your plate full (this can satisfy your brain). Staying hydrated also helps.
Also remember that weight loss is typically slow toward the end.On top of watching your diet a little more closely, try changing up your workouts a little. Our bodies can become used to doing the same exercise over and over, slowing down our progress and becoming less and less effective.
Eat slowly, because it takes your body 10 minutes before it recognizes that its full. Also drink water right before and during your meal--this makes a big big difference. Any liquid at all will do this to you--coffee, tea, low fat milk are all good. Put less food on your plate (there are actually studies that show that you eat less when there is less on your plate to begin with. and my little tip is: brush your teeth right away when you're done eating a reasonable portion size, it always zaps away the desire to eat more.
this article really helps--
http://www.newsweek.com/id/160495
In the beginning diets are hard. Over time your stomach shrinks and you just generally get full quicker. So it gets easier.
Plus initially, all your thinking about is your diet and food. After a bit, you aren't thinking about it all the time. So the mental hard part of it passes too.
That being said, i don't beleive in dieting and definately not in portion cutting. Exercise.
Goodluck
Eating until you feel full is not a bad thing. I think it actually makes sense. Try drinking a significant amout of water before a meal to make you feel full or eat a handful of nuts before a meal such as almonds or peanuts. Nuts can be filling but make sure they aren't salted as they can make you crave more salty food. Also try using smaller dishes. This gives the illusion that you are actually eating a big portion. You just have to know when to stop. Its helped me. I'm 5lbs away from my goal. Congrats on the weight loss. Good luck to you!
Eat more pasta and breads, they expand in your stomach and make you feel more full. Any type of starchy food will help you eat less and still be healthy.
try eating apples or something fat free very low calories right before meals ,fill up on those foods before you fill up on the bad kinda foods ,bad for diets that is
try upping your exercise for a few weeks and see if that helps. Burn those extra calories instead of cutting down
Drink an 8 oz glass of water before each meal.
drink a large glass of water before you eat this will help fill you up.
You should eat until you are filled then stop. You should not eat a bite more when you are filled. The advantage of being filled at each meal is that it help you to avoid snacking, which in turn have you eating far lest for the day, while your digestive system is given time to rest. Also you do not run the risk of under eating.
If your diet is mainly vegetables you should not have a problem with your volume as long as you do not go over fill. Vegetables, especially when eaten raw are very nutritious and are not fattening. Most fruits also are not fattening.
Chew your foods longer than you'd normally do. You'll find that you eat far lest. This might take some effort, since you might find that the inclination is to swallow at your normal pace. However with practice you'll start chewing much longer.
Another thing, it is better to eat complex carbohydrates such as yam, potatoes, green bananas, etc. than pasta. Why? Complex carbohydrate has other nutrients necessary for good health. Pasta is pure empty carb - flour - no other nutrients. The calories in pasta is higher than any complex carbohydrate you can think of.
Does anyone have any advice on how to eat less?
By full, do you mean ';I can't possibly eat another bite/I'm stuffed';? If you feel this way as opposed to feeling satisfied, then you are probably eating too much.
Do you eat while you are doing other things? Do you skip meals? Keep a food diary for a while. Don't focus on calories- focus on what you eat, when you eat, how long it takes you to eat, and how you felt before (anything from famished to bored) and after (same idea). After a week or two, take a look. Do you wait hours before meals and have a hard time slowing down? How quickly do you eat? Again, do you eat while you are on the computer or watching TV? All of these things can prevent you from really listening to your body's fullness signals (particularly being distracted while eating). Using smaller plates is a good way to cut portion sizes and still keep your plate full (this can satisfy your brain). Staying hydrated also helps.
Also remember that weight loss is typically slow toward the end.On top of watching your diet a little more closely, try changing up your workouts a little. Our bodies can become used to doing the same exercise over and over, slowing down our progress and becoming less and less effective.
Eat slowly, because it takes your body 10 minutes before it recognizes that its full. Also drink water right before and during your meal--this makes a big big difference. Any liquid at all will do this to you--coffee, tea, low fat milk are all good. Put less food on your plate (there are actually studies that show that you eat less when there is less on your plate to begin with. and my little tip is: brush your teeth right away when you're done eating a reasonable portion size, it always zaps away the desire to eat more.
this article really helps--
http://www.newsweek.com/id/160495
In the beginning diets are hard. Over time your stomach shrinks and you just generally get full quicker. So it gets easier.
Plus initially, all your thinking about is your diet and food. After a bit, you aren't thinking about it all the time. So the mental hard part of it passes too.
That being said, i don't beleive in dieting and definately not in portion cutting. Exercise.
Goodluck
Eating until you feel full is not a bad thing. I think it actually makes sense. Try drinking a significant amout of water before a meal to make you feel full or eat a handful of nuts before a meal such as almonds or peanuts. Nuts can be filling but make sure they aren't salted as they can make you crave more salty food. Also try using smaller dishes. This gives the illusion that you are actually eating a big portion. You just have to know when to stop. Its helped me. I'm 5lbs away from my goal. Congrats on the weight loss. Good luck to you!
Eat more pasta and breads, they expand in your stomach and make you feel more full. Any type of starchy food will help you eat less and still be healthy.
try eating apples or something fat free very low calories right before meals ,fill up on those foods before you fill up on the bad kinda foods ,bad for diets that is
try upping your exercise for a few weeks and see if that helps. Burn those extra calories instead of cutting down
Drink an 8 oz glass of water before each meal.
drink a large glass of water before you eat this will help fill you up.
Does anyone have any advice on quitting smoking?
I have been smoking for too long and lately I have been smoking like a chimney! LOL I really need to quit. Does anyone have any advice?Does anyone have any advice on quitting smoking?
First congrats on ur decision to improve your quality of life.
I smoked for 20 yrs 1 pack a day.....I quit 4 mths ago and have not touched one even in the most stressful times I did not go back to the old habit.
I tried everything in the past, patches, gum and cold turkey. This time I went to my doctor. He prescribed Chantix. I know there has been alot of bad press about this drug lately but I had no problems with it. I really think it depends on the individual in regards to the side effects. If you really want to quit I suggest you at least give it a try. It worked great for me.
Good luckDoes anyone have any advice on quitting smoking?
Ive been smoking since late 2005 i was up to smoking almost a pack a day sometimes a pack and a half a day if i was with friends who smoked alot. One day i decided i was wasting alot of money so i just decided to quit. Might not work for you, 7 people work at the lab im at and of the 7 people 4 of them smoke. so its tough but i realy think since im still inhaling second hand smoke i guess you could say thats actually helping to curb my need to smoke.
Good luck and quit for yourself not for others.
Hey Trueblue!
Smoking is a nasty habit, but its one of the hardest habits to kick. Coming from a former smoker, I know - I used to smoke almost 2 packs a day!
A friend of mine forwarded me this ebook that he got that really helped me. It was written by a former smoker and addresses the excuses smokers have about not wanting to quit AND the ';perceived fears'; smokers have about a life without cigarettes. Its an awesome book and you can download it for free. Definitely worth checking out:
http://www.killer-ebooks.net/Quitting-Smoking.html
You have to be prepared mentally. The physical addiction can last a few days, but the mental addiction can last forever. You can help yourself by using a product designed to help people quit
http://www.havetoquitsmoking.com/quit-sm鈥?/a>
Ask your doctor.
My mom, as well as a few of her friends have quit smoking. Its some pill that you take for about a month. but i forget what it's called.
She asked her doctor and he recommended whatever it is and it worked.
I tried everything for the longest time.... at some point you just have to ';man up'; and just stop..... it sucks for a few days but you will feel SOOOOOO much better later on
I work for a smoking cessation team and I'll tell you that the BEST way to quit smoking is to pair both some sort of counseling along with nicotine replacement therapy...that will bring you the greatest likelihood of success. Many hospitals have smoking cessation groups that are either free or only cost about $20. Cutting back your nicotine with products such as the nicotine patch will help you get over the cravings little bits at a time. If you try 'cold turkey' I'm not saying that you won't be able to accomplish your goal...but most people can't bear the withdrawl symptoms long enough to overcome them. The average physiological dependence on nicotine can be broken in 3 days...after that point your addiction is more psychological..which is where things like habit come into play. Think about where you smoke, when you smoke, why you smoke, and what you can do to change those things. If you like to smoke with your coffee in the a.m., try another beverage until you break the habit. If you smoke because of stress, try some deep breathing exercises before going out for a cigarette; you might get the calm down that you need.
Nicotine replacement therapy is a good substitute for smoking when trying to cut back (instead of smoking fewer and fewer cigarettes) because there is only one chemical in NRT: nicotine. There are thousands of chemicals in cigarettes that aren't addictive that you should be avoiding. The patch, for example, releases a constant stream of nicotine into your system so that you don't experience a nicotine withdrawl...it is a small amount all throughout the day rather than a quick burst of nicotine with each cigarette drag. Another good thing about the patch is that, if worn at night, you won't wake up with a craving (especially important for folks who smoke in bed) because you are getting nicotine all night instead of going 6-8 hours w/out any nicotine at all. The patch is in steps to help you cut back, but slowly so you don't have to worry about withdrawls. There are health restrictions, of course, and you CANNOT smoke w/the patch under any circumstances. Nicotine overdose is a very serious thing.
Another option that you could talk to your dr. about is Chantix. This drug helps block the receptors in the brain that nicotine stimulates to release dopamine into your system and give you that 'feel good' feeling. It will help you so that when you go to take a smoke, it isn't a wonderful thing that you can't get enough of.
Having counseling is good because it helps you help yourself. Perhaps 'counseling' has a bad ring to it...think of it more as a point of accountability. If you know you have someone other than yourself to feel almost responsible to, you think twice before 'quitting quitting'. Also, the counselor doesn't tell you what to do. They help you find your own solutions to problems and can give suggestions.
Don't ever feel like a failure if you try to quit and don't at first. Many people try to quit 7-10 times before they do successfully. Instead of focusing on not being able to quit, focus on what things were positive while you were off tobacco. What were your strengths? What weaknesses can you improve upon next time?
Good luck to you!!
Be resolved that you want to quit, I mean REALLY committed.
Set a date to quit, the prepare for that date.
Get rid of all the ashtrays.
Think of some hobbies that will keep your hands and mind busy when a craving hits you.
Get a bunch of straws and sip water frequently. It helps flush the nicotine and diminishes the oral aspect of your craving.
When you crave, do deep breathing, suck the air in as you would if you were inhaling a drag. Part of our addiction is the relaxation effect you get as you smoke. Slow deep breathing helps to relax the chest and back muscles and relieves tension. It will help trick your mind into feeling satisfied.
Change your routine. eg. If you have cigs while you sit getting ready in the morning, change that habit and get ready standing up, preferably in a different room. Addiction is driving by triggers. When your brain recognizes a familiar smoking situation, it sends the ';SMOKE NOW!'; craving. You have to break those triggers down and reprogram your brain.
Don't hang out with friends/family if they're smoking for at least 3 months, longer if you can manage it. Your cravings will come in waves for months or years. They get further apart and less intense as time passes, but can blind side you into starting again if you don't anticipate them.
DON'T HAVE EVEN ONE PUFF after you quit. That part of your brain that says ';One puff won't hurt me';, is the addicted part of your brain trying to trick you into feeding the addiction.
Shampoo your carpets, wash curtains and any other fabric surfaces in your home, bedding, clothes, etc. Wash down the walls in the rooms you smoked most too.
The residual smell of the smoke can trigger cravings. Also, if you do a major clean you can use that to combat your cravings. When you have a craving think, ';I didn't work that hard just to have to do it all over again when I have to quit again';.
Positive reinforcement is essential. Give yourself rewards for milestones. Treat yourself to something at specific intervals, like 1 month, 3 months, 6 months, a year... Make the rewards things that help motivate you to stay smoke free.
Avoid stressful people and situations for the first 3 months, if at all possible.
If you can, take a week off work, so you don't use the stress of the job as an excuse to smoke. Also, having used a week of vacation to quit creates an investment in the process. Use that to beat the cravings with repeated mind speak, like '; I'm not going to waste a week of vacation, I WILL DO THIS!';
Get out and walk or exercise as much as you can. It will help with the mental image of a healthier you, while actually making you a healthier you.
Ultimately it begins and ends with your resolve to quit. As your get closer to your set quit date, imagine a smoke free, happy, healthier you. Get a really solid mental image of yourself as a non-smoker and pull that image up as many times a day as you can stand. This will help A LOT to reprogram your mind and defeat future cravings. When a craving pops up, that smoke free mental image of yourself will be easy to access and use to defeat the craving.
Plan ahead and be committed and you'll beat this!
BEST OF LUCK TO YOU :D
First congrats on ur decision to improve your quality of life.
I smoked for 20 yrs 1 pack a day.....I quit 4 mths ago and have not touched one even in the most stressful times I did not go back to the old habit.
I tried everything in the past, patches, gum and cold turkey. This time I went to my doctor. He prescribed Chantix. I know there has been alot of bad press about this drug lately but I had no problems with it. I really think it depends on the individual in regards to the side effects. If you really want to quit I suggest you at least give it a try. It worked great for me.
Good luckDoes anyone have any advice on quitting smoking?
Ive been smoking since late 2005 i was up to smoking almost a pack a day sometimes a pack and a half a day if i was with friends who smoked alot. One day i decided i was wasting alot of money so i just decided to quit. Might not work for you, 7 people work at the lab im at and of the 7 people 4 of them smoke. so its tough but i realy think since im still inhaling second hand smoke i guess you could say thats actually helping to curb my need to smoke.
Good luck and quit for yourself not for others.
Hey Trueblue!
Smoking is a nasty habit, but its one of the hardest habits to kick. Coming from a former smoker, I know - I used to smoke almost 2 packs a day!
A friend of mine forwarded me this ebook that he got that really helped me. It was written by a former smoker and addresses the excuses smokers have about not wanting to quit AND the ';perceived fears'; smokers have about a life without cigarettes. Its an awesome book and you can download it for free. Definitely worth checking out:
http://www.killer-ebooks.net/Quitting-Smoking.html
You have to be prepared mentally. The physical addiction can last a few days, but the mental addiction can last forever. You can help yourself by using a product designed to help people quit
http://www.havetoquitsmoking.com/quit-sm鈥?/a>
Ask your doctor.
My mom, as well as a few of her friends have quit smoking. Its some pill that you take for about a month. but i forget what it's called.
She asked her doctor and he recommended whatever it is and it worked.
I tried everything for the longest time.... at some point you just have to ';man up'; and just stop..... it sucks for a few days but you will feel SOOOOOO much better later on
I work for a smoking cessation team and I'll tell you that the BEST way to quit smoking is to pair both some sort of counseling along with nicotine replacement therapy...that will bring you the greatest likelihood of success. Many hospitals have smoking cessation groups that are either free or only cost about $20. Cutting back your nicotine with products such as the nicotine patch will help you get over the cravings little bits at a time. If you try 'cold turkey' I'm not saying that you won't be able to accomplish your goal...but most people can't bear the withdrawl symptoms long enough to overcome them. The average physiological dependence on nicotine can be broken in 3 days...after that point your addiction is more psychological..which is where things like habit come into play. Think about where you smoke, when you smoke, why you smoke, and what you can do to change those things. If you like to smoke with your coffee in the a.m., try another beverage until you break the habit. If you smoke because of stress, try some deep breathing exercises before going out for a cigarette; you might get the calm down that you need.
Nicotine replacement therapy is a good substitute for smoking when trying to cut back (instead of smoking fewer and fewer cigarettes) because there is only one chemical in NRT: nicotine. There are thousands of chemicals in cigarettes that aren't addictive that you should be avoiding. The patch, for example, releases a constant stream of nicotine into your system so that you don't experience a nicotine withdrawl...it is a small amount all throughout the day rather than a quick burst of nicotine with each cigarette drag. Another good thing about the patch is that, if worn at night, you won't wake up with a craving (especially important for folks who smoke in bed) because you are getting nicotine all night instead of going 6-8 hours w/out any nicotine at all. The patch is in steps to help you cut back, but slowly so you don't have to worry about withdrawls. There are health restrictions, of course, and you CANNOT smoke w/the patch under any circumstances. Nicotine overdose is a very serious thing.
Another option that you could talk to your dr. about is Chantix. This drug helps block the receptors in the brain that nicotine stimulates to release dopamine into your system and give you that 'feel good' feeling. It will help you so that when you go to take a smoke, it isn't a wonderful thing that you can't get enough of.
Having counseling is good because it helps you help yourself. Perhaps 'counseling' has a bad ring to it...think of it more as a point of accountability. If you know you have someone other than yourself to feel almost responsible to, you think twice before 'quitting quitting'. Also, the counselor doesn't tell you what to do. They help you find your own solutions to problems and can give suggestions.
Don't ever feel like a failure if you try to quit and don't at first. Many people try to quit 7-10 times before they do successfully. Instead of focusing on not being able to quit, focus on what things were positive while you were off tobacco. What were your strengths? What weaknesses can you improve upon next time?
Good luck to you!!
Be resolved that you want to quit, I mean REALLY committed.
Set a date to quit, the prepare for that date.
Get rid of all the ashtrays.
Think of some hobbies that will keep your hands and mind busy when a craving hits you.
Get a bunch of straws and sip water frequently. It helps flush the nicotine and diminishes the oral aspect of your craving.
When you crave, do deep breathing, suck the air in as you would if you were inhaling a drag. Part of our addiction is the relaxation effect you get as you smoke. Slow deep breathing helps to relax the chest and back muscles and relieves tension. It will help trick your mind into feeling satisfied.
Change your routine. eg. If you have cigs while you sit getting ready in the morning, change that habit and get ready standing up, preferably in a different room. Addiction is driving by triggers. When your brain recognizes a familiar smoking situation, it sends the ';SMOKE NOW!'; craving. You have to break those triggers down and reprogram your brain.
Don't hang out with friends/family if they're smoking for at least 3 months, longer if you can manage it. Your cravings will come in waves for months or years. They get further apart and less intense as time passes, but can blind side you into starting again if you don't anticipate them.
DON'T HAVE EVEN ONE PUFF after you quit. That part of your brain that says ';One puff won't hurt me';, is the addicted part of your brain trying to trick you into feeding the addiction.
Shampoo your carpets, wash curtains and any other fabric surfaces in your home, bedding, clothes, etc. Wash down the walls in the rooms you smoked most too.
The residual smell of the smoke can trigger cravings. Also, if you do a major clean you can use that to combat your cravings. When you have a craving think, ';I didn't work that hard just to have to do it all over again when I have to quit again';.
Positive reinforcement is essential. Give yourself rewards for milestones. Treat yourself to something at specific intervals, like 1 month, 3 months, 6 months, a year... Make the rewards things that help motivate you to stay smoke free.
Avoid stressful people and situations for the first 3 months, if at all possible.
If you can, take a week off work, so you don't use the stress of the job as an excuse to smoke. Also, having used a week of vacation to quit creates an investment in the process. Use that to beat the cravings with repeated mind speak, like '; I'm not going to waste a week of vacation, I WILL DO THIS!';
Get out and walk or exercise as much as you can. It will help with the mental image of a healthier you, while actually making you a healthier you.
Ultimately it begins and ends with your resolve to quit. As your get closer to your set quit date, imagine a smoke free, happy, healthier you. Get a really solid mental image of yourself as a non-smoker and pull that image up as many times a day as you can stand. This will help A LOT to reprogram your mind and defeat future cravings. When a craving pops up, that smoke free mental image of yourself will be easy to access and use to defeat the craving.
Plan ahead and be committed and you'll beat this!
BEST OF LUCK TO YOU :D
What could be some reasons why a student refuses to make eye contact with me when she asks me for advice?
I taught a class today and there was a student who was very academic. She feels comfortable asking me for advice on how to deal with problems at school. When I give her advice she refuses to look at me when I speak but she thinks I give her good advice all the time and she appreciates it. She is not shy. She is outgoing.What could be some reasons why a student refuses to make eye contact with me when she asks me for advice?
Either she doesnt wish to appear to challenge your authority or territory, or is insecure about having to ask or deal with the problem she is asking you about.
But she appreciates it and maybe it took a lot of herself to have to ask it, how ever trivial it may seem to you.What could be some reasons why a student refuses to make eye contact with me when she asks me for advice?
could have a crush on you i think maybe,
if not, i would have said shy./ intimidated,
?? im not sure its a tricky one.
Some people don't make eye contact when they are trying to concentrate on what is being said. They want only to use their ears to make sure they understand. Sometimes when I have eye contact I am distracted by facial expressions or noticing something about the other person instead of fully listening.
Is it whenever you give her advice she behaves that way or was it just today? And when you say academic and today do you mean she does participate fully in class and answer your questions while looking directly at your eyeballs?
She could be naturally shy, or as she could be affected by the way she was brought up by her parents, or she may be having a different question that is hard to find words to put it across (personal difficult question to her). Well, there could be a millions things happening here, and only a one to one basis will help to give an honest evaluation. However, whenever even a shy child is serious and honest about something they will look straight into your eyes. hope it helps.
Could be a sign of respect depending on her religion or culture.......
Maybe she has to work at appearing confident. So when she asks you a question, she stops concentrating on appearing confident to listen to the information your giving her. I think she drops the facade to listen then picks it up again when your finished talking.
likely something thats been beaten out of her at home
Either she doesnt wish to appear to challenge your authority or territory, or is insecure about having to ask or deal with the problem she is asking you about.
But she appreciates it and maybe it took a lot of herself to have to ask it, how ever trivial it may seem to you.What could be some reasons why a student refuses to make eye contact with me when she asks me for advice?
could have a crush on you i think maybe,
if not, i would have said shy./ intimidated,
?? im not sure its a tricky one.
Some people don't make eye contact when they are trying to concentrate on what is being said. They want only to use their ears to make sure they understand. Sometimes when I have eye contact I am distracted by facial expressions or noticing something about the other person instead of fully listening.
Is it whenever you give her advice she behaves that way or was it just today? And when you say academic and today do you mean she does participate fully in class and answer your questions while looking directly at your eyeballs?
She could be naturally shy, or as she could be affected by the way she was brought up by her parents, or she may be having a different question that is hard to find words to put it across (personal difficult question to her). Well, there could be a millions things happening here, and only a one to one basis will help to give an honest evaluation. However, whenever even a shy child is serious and honest about something they will look straight into your eyes. hope it helps.
Could be a sign of respect depending on her religion or culture.......
Maybe she has to work at appearing confident. So when she asks you a question, she stops concentrating on appearing confident to listen to the information your giving her. I think she drops the facade to listen then picks it up again when your finished talking.
likely something thats been beaten out of her at home
My dog has a bump on his inner thigh that was hard and now soft with blood in it, any advice?
Looks like a blood blister and feels like one to.My dog has a bump on his inner thigh that was hard and now soft with blood in it, any advice?
It sounds like it could possibly be a boil from maybe an ingrown hair.. Or it may be a cyst I would take him to a vet just to get it looked at..My dog has a bump on his inner thigh that was hard and now soft with blood in it, any advice?
Take him to the vet, that's the only advice I can give you. Sorry, hope it goes away.
Make sure it's not a tick. I would go to the vet
go to the vet just in case
u never know
It sounds like it could possibly be a boil from maybe an ingrown hair.. Or it may be a cyst I would take him to a vet just to get it looked at..My dog has a bump on his inner thigh that was hard and now soft with blood in it, any advice?
Take him to the vet, that's the only advice I can give you. Sorry, hope it goes away.
Make sure it's not a tick. I would go to the vet
go to the vet just in case
u never know
I'm going to be studying abroad in London & I'm trying to find the best solution for my cell phone? Advice?
I'm hoping to find a standard monthly rate including text, calls, internet and email. I'm also planning getting a blackberry.I'm going to be studying abroad in London %26amp; I'm trying to find the best solution for my cell phone? Advice?
I'm with Vodafone.
I get a free phone once a year, unlimited texts and 500 minutes and it costs æ‹¢25 (about $40)
You can pay extra for insurance etc
I'm with Vodafone.
I get a free phone once a year, unlimited texts and 500 minutes and it costs æ‹¢25 (about $40)
You can pay extra for insurance etc
Ok so, is there any advice you can offer on how best to do you driving test?
Any good advice would be appreciated.Ok so, is there any advice you can offer on how best to do you driving test?
Think of the instructor as your granny.
Drive as if she was sitting beside you.Ok so, is there any advice you can offer on how best to do you driving test?
when the examiner is in the car aside of you,alter the mirror so that you have to move your head to see behind you. This is because he watches you with side of his eyes and he could not see you if you just moved your eyes,also drive with confidence,at side-roads take your foot off the gas cover brake and look to make sure nobody comes out unexpectedly count to 4 use your mirrors door mirrors as well Prove to examiner you are in total con troll and it will be like a stroll in park good look hope this helps .
Just try to stay calm and as relaxed as possible and you'll sail through it!! Good luck.
try it in a car , that worked for me !!
Just be calm try not to think of it as a driving test just drive as if you were driving un-accompanied which you will be once you pass try not to be conscious about the examiner being with you and don't let the test sheet put you off if you see the examiner make on it , after failing 5 tests i have been told by a number of people to take a product called Kalms several days before your test and they say they have helped them
if you can drive you pass if you cant you wont ,just stay cool and do as you are ask.best of luck and take care.
Drive as if you are out on a sunday, taking in all the sceneriey (sp ?) Try not to worry, (easier said than done)Think of the examiner being a new instructor, or as on my test the examiners where being examined at the same time, made me feel much better.
Take a couple of deep breaths before you start
Good luck
keep both hands on the wheel... drive the speed limit and maintain the speed limit down or up hill thats what there going to watch... make sure to stop at the white line at the intersection... and when doing menuverability drive slow u can drive slow as u want u just cant stop.... and there no time limit to do it so take your time... when pulling threw the cones forwards stop the back bumper lined with the cone and when backing threw stop the front bumper lined with the cone and make sure your straight cuz all that will be points off if not...
sorry - 200 lessons, 6 tests, 2 D's for dangerous driving and i still havent got a license
just try and stay calm cuz thats what most people fail on, nerves.
Get a good instructor. The best way to get a good instructor is by recommendation. This is without a doubt the most important factor in test success.
Listen to what they say %26amp; drive the way they tell you on the test.
Think of the instructor as your granny.
Drive as if she was sitting beside you.Ok so, is there any advice you can offer on how best to do you driving test?
when the examiner is in the car aside of you,alter the mirror so that you have to move your head to see behind you. This is because he watches you with side of his eyes and he could not see you if you just moved your eyes,also drive with confidence,at side-roads take your foot off the gas cover brake and look to make sure nobody comes out unexpectedly count to 4 use your mirrors door mirrors as well Prove to examiner you are in total con troll and it will be like a stroll in park good look hope this helps .
Just try to stay calm and as relaxed as possible and you'll sail through it!! Good luck.
try it in a car , that worked for me !!
Just be calm try not to think of it as a driving test just drive as if you were driving un-accompanied which you will be once you pass try not to be conscious about the examiner being with you and don't let the test sheet put you off if you see the examiner make on it , after failing 5 tests i have been told by a number of people to take a product called Kalms several days before your test and they say they have helped them
if you can drive you pass if you cant you wont ,just stay cool and do as you are ask.best of luck and take care.
Drive as if you are out on a sunday, taking in all the sceneriey (sp ?) Try not to worry, (easier said than done)Think of the examiner being a new instructor, or as on my test the examiners where being examined at the same time, made me feel much better.
Take a couple of deep breaths before you start
Good luck
keep both hands on the wheel... drive the speed limit and maintain the speed limit down or up hill thats what there going to watch... make sure to stop at the white line at the intersection... and when doing menuverability drive slow u can drive slow as u want u just cant stop.... and there no time limit to do it so take your time... when pulling threw the cones forwards stop the back bumper lined with the cone and when backing threw stop the front bumper lined with the cone and make sure your straight cuz all that will be points off if not...
sorry - 200 lessons, 6 tests, 2 D's for dangerous driving and i still havent got a license
just try and stay calm cuz thats what most people fail on, nerves.
Get a good instructor. The best way to get a good instructor is by recommendation. This is without a doubt the most important factor in test success.
Listen to what they say %26amp; drive the way they tell you on the test.
Hi, I want to start learning the guitar (acoustic) but im looking for advice on what guitar to buy.?
Buying the right guitar depends on too many parameters
Some of them are:
Player
Furniture of the Guitar:
Structure of the Handle:
Magnetics
Labor
Bridge
Brand and Prestige
Other Factors
You have to read more and have to make more research. Asking on the internet is not enough. you should have to visit guitar shops and touch the guitars also before buying.
And your answer is going to be changed with ';what type of music that you will perform with your guitar?';
If you ask again with the music type i thing you are gonna have better and useful results Hi, I want to start learning the guitar (acoustic) but im looking for advice on what guitar to buy.?
when i first lernt guitar i got a shitty clasical for æ‹¢20 from argos because i didnt know if i was going to be any good or not.
it helped me learn and now i can play loads and i bought an electric and an acoustic
i suggest getting a cheap one because you might end up not liking guitar at all and then you would have wasted loads of money on an expensive one.Hi, I want to start learning the guitar (acoustic) but im looking for advice on what guitar to buy.?
If you are serious I would pick a more expensive guitar because you definitely get what you pay for. Takamine makes amazing guitars but Martin does as well. Check out musiciansfriend.com to find some good ideas.
Fender make the best, gibson and ibanez also make good ones
Some of them are:
Player
Furniture of the Guitar:
Structure of the Handle:
Magnetics
Labor
Bridge
Brand and Prestige
Other Factors
You have to read more and have to make more research. Asking on the internet is not enough. you should have to visit guitar shops and touch the guitars also before buying.
And your answer is going to be changed with ';what type of music that you will perform with your guitar?';
If you ask again with the music type i thing you are gonna have better and useful results Hi, I want to start learning the guitar (acoustic) but im looking for advice on what guitar to buy.?
when i first lernt guitar i got a shitty clasical for æ‹¢20 from argos because i didnt know if i was going to be any good or not.
it helped me learn and now i can play loads and i bought an electric and an acoustic
i suggest getting a cheap one because you might end up not liking guitar at all and then you would have wasted loads of money on an expensive one.Hi, I want to start learning the guitar (acoustic) but im looking for advice on what guitar to buy.?
If you are serious I would pick a more expensive guitar because you definitely get what you pay for. Takamine makes amazing guitars but Martin does as well. Check out musiciansfriend.com to find some good ideas.
Fender make the best, gibson and ibanez also make good ones
I have taken 3 pregnancy tests and all say negative. I have pain like on both of my ovaries like any advice?
I do get some discharge but it is not smelly. I had an ovarian cyst before and it feels similiar, I am so stressed out right now too. Could that be the cause?I have taken 3 pregnancy tests and all say negative. I have pain like on both of my ovaries like any advice?
Yes, it is mostly likely an ovarian cyst.
Ovarian cysts are a natural course of a menstrual cycle. They tend to dissipate on their own and most times you don't even know you have them. But, they can be very painful when they do make themselves known.
Your stress may be causing your period to delay (are late right now?). Just relax and focus on work to keep your mind off the lateness. Things have a way of working out.
Ideally, it is better to wait 2 weeks after the first missed period to take a pregnancy test, that way, there are more pregnancy hormones for the test to detect. If a positive result, next step is to your doctor for another test and a beta quantitative HCG, the higher the number of the HCG, the more likely you are pregnant.
If, however, after a test is negative, you will still need to see your doctor so he/she can determine what is causing the delay.
Good luck.I have taken 3 pregnancy tests and all say negative. I have pain like on both of my ovaries like any advice?
Yes, it's possible that it could be another cyst. Also, I don't know where you are in your cycle but if you are a couple weeks away from your period this could be causing the pain as well. I would recommend checking with your doctor as well to see what they say.
Since you've had a cyst before there is a likely chance you can get them again. I would get it checked out especially since you said the feeling is similar. Hopefully it isn't the cause but you can never be too sure.
yes, could be a cyst.
This could very well be an ovarian cyst. I get this too every time I have a cyst. Do you have any other symptoms?
I would recommend you go see your GP. They might have to send you for an ultrasound to have a look at your ovaries and to see whether you have a cyst. The ultrasound will normally show what type of cyst and what the size of the cyst is. Your GP might want to run other tests to rule out other things like STD's, PID, UTI and other infections.
Don't delay going to see your GP, the sooner you go the faster you will be able to find out what is wrong and they can treat it.
If you have any further questions about cysts and problems relating to cysts, please feel free to email me - the link to my email is in my profile.
Yes, it is mostly likely an ovarian cyst.
Ovarian cysts are a natural course of a menstrual cycle. They tend to dissipate on their own and most times you don't even know you have them. But, they can be very painful when they do make themselves known.
Your stress may be causing your period to delay (are late right now?). Just relax and focus on work to keep your mind off the lateness. Things have a way of working out.
Ideally, it is better to wait 2 weeks after the first missed period to take a pregnancy test, that way, there are more pregnancy hormones for the test to detect. If a positive result, next step is to your doctor for another test and a beta quantitative HCG, the higher the number of the HCG, the more likely you are pregnant.
If, however, after a test is negative, you will still need to see your doctor so he/she can determine what is causing the delay.
Good luck.I have taken 3 pregnancy tests and all say negative. I have pain like on both of my ovaries like any advice?
Yes, it's possible that it could be another cyst. Also, I don't know where you are in your cycle but if you are a couple weeks away from your period this could be causing the pain as well. I would recommend checking with your doctor as well to see what they say.
Since you've had a cyst before there is a likely chance you can get them again. I would get it checked out especially since you said the feeling is similar. Hopefully it isn't the cause but you can never be too sure.
yes, could be a cyst.
This could very well be an ovarian cyst. I get this too every time I have a cyst. Do you have any other symptoms?
I would recommend you go see your GP. They might have to send you for an ultrasound to have a look at your ovaries and to see whether you have a cyst. The ultrasound will normally show what type of cyst and what the size of the cyst is. Your GP might want to run other tests to rule out other things like STD's, PID, UTI and other infections.
Don't delay going to see your GP, the sooner you go the faster you will be able to find out what is wrong and they can treat it.
If you have any further questions about cysts and problems relating to cysts, please feel free to email me - the link to my email is in my profile.
Im new to gauges any advice on how to start?
okay so my parents finally gave in and they are letting me get gauges but im tottally lost with where to start and what sizes and what to use, and please answer this if you have gauges and you are experienced!Im new to gauges any advice on how to start?
Well do you know what size your piercing is already?
I'd start at an 18/16g taper to start with.
Don't skip sizes, so 18, 16, 14 etc...
Wait a month or so in between.
Use lube.
Don't wear tapers as jewellery, buy tunnels or plugs, and follow them in straight after the taper
If it hurts, you're doing it wrong, stop and wait another week.
Stretch after a hot shower, it helps.
Use surgical steel, glass or titanium. Avoid acyrlic. Not good for ears, and it stinks anyway. Organics for healed stretches only..
These are good http://www.bodyartforms.com/productdetai鈥?/a> But start at 14g. You can use BCRs up till then though. And to be honest, your ears are probably loose enough to not use a taper. But if theres much resistance, wait and find a taper.
Any other questions just ask :)
If I don't know, I'll know someone who does.
Well do you know what size your piercing is already?
I'd start at an 18/16g taper to start with.
Don't skip sizes, so 18, 16, 14 etc...
Wait a month or so in between.
Use lube.
Don't wear tapers as jewellery, buy tunnels or plugs, and follow them in straight after the taper
If it hurts, you're doing it wrong, stop and wait another week.
Stretch after a hot shower, it helps.
Use surgical steel, glass or titanium. Avoid acyrlic. Not good for ears, and it stinks anyway. Organics for healed stretches only..
These are good http://www.bodyartforms.com/productdetai鈥?/a> But start at 14g. You can use BCRs up till then though. And to be honest, your ears are probably loose enough to not use a taper. But if theres much resistance, wait and find a taper.
Any other questions just ask :)
If I don't know, I'll know someone who does.
I will be driving from Detroit to new york (Manhattan) in a few weeks. I would like to get all the advice poss
I have the basics like what and how to pack. we will be leaving around midnight and arriving aprox 10am sunday morning. we would like driving tips and etc. we want to go to the ocean. whats the best and closest beach and what way to get there?I will be driving from Detroit to new york (Manhattan) in a few weeks. I would like to get all the advice poss
I-80, I drove NY to LA for 6 days. If you would like a better view of Manhattan and don't mind to spend a bit time, then live/book a hotel near by Hoboken or Edgewater, NJ area...a more visitor town and wounderful views (specially at night).
One more thing is the more closer to NYC, the more toll you need to prepare. Ohio state also charge toll. (But Starbucks are everywhere with rest areas)....so, don't forget to get more small change ($1, 5 or 10) Have a happy drive!!!I will be driving from Detroit to new york (Manhattan) in a few weeks. I would like to get all the advice poss
That is a very long drive, longer than 10 hours. I tried it once when I was about 30. Even with another driver and when you are young, you really should stop and rest overnight somewhere or you will be so tired you will not enjoy your trip. Also you want to be alert if you are driving through New York city. I did not go near there. We stayed in another area outside of New York city.
Also there are two ways to get there. A lot of people go through Canada to get to New York because it is shorter. If you do that you will need a passport. And if anyone in your car is under 18, I think you might need some other papers too.
I-80, I drove NY to LA for 6 days. If you would like a better view of Manhattan and don't mind to spend a bit time, then live/book a hotel near by Hoboken or Edgewater, NJ area...a more visitor town and wounderful views (specially at night).
One more thing is the more closer to NYC, the more toll you need to prepare. Ohio state also charge toll. (But Starbucks are everywhere with rest areas)....so, don't forget to get more small change ($1, 5 or 10) Have a happy drive!!!I will be driving from Detroit to new york (Manhattan) in a few weeks. I would like to get all the advice poss
That is a very long drive, longer than 10 hours. I tried it once when I was about 30. Even with another driver and when you are young, you really should stop and rest overnight somewhere or you will be so tired you will not enjoy your trip. Also you want to be alert if you are driving through New York city. I did not go near there. We stayed in another area outside of New York city.
Also there are two ways to get there. A lot of people go through Canada to get to New York because it is shorter. If you do that you will need a passport. And if anyone in your car is under 18, I think you might need some other papers too.
Can anyone give me any advice on growing a Musa Basjoo banana tree? I want to know your experience with it.?
I'm in zone 6. I am planting it outside.Can anyone give me any advice on growing a Musa Basjoo banana tree? I want to know your experience with it.?
I love Musa Basjoo, probably the cold hardiest banana that exists. Whilst I get freezes, going to 0掳F, in Zone 6, you may get down to -10掳, which will provide a somewhat tougher deal.
They typically do best if they're not cut down to the soil each wintertime, so you'll need to focus on winter protection. There are several methods that you can use to protect your plant. I'll start with an outline of the sort of protection that you may wish to create, as this will be the biggest challenge that you;ll get with this plant.
You can build a wooden frame around your plant, as a small house for it for the winter. You can then cover this frame with polythene, or some other covering. If it's breathable, then it really helps to prevent air stagnation, especially if there's allot of moisture around.
You you wrap the trunk with hessian sacking, gardener's fleece as well as infill with really dry Fall tree leaves too. These trap air, which works as a perfect insulator.
If the 'trunk' gets cut back by freezes, then you'll have also protected the roots, so you're likely to get sprouts off it, and these babies will grow quickly, once spring arrives.
OK, winter protection methodology over, Musa Basjoo loves tons of water and feeding. I always work allot of well rotted manure into the planting hole, providing nutrients for the future. You can supplement this by adding some around the plant, during the growth period.
You'll do well to add even more fertilizer as well, at least weekly. You can make manure 'teas' that will feed your plants well or the fertilizer of your choice.
In autumn, expect to take off the leaves from around the plant, so that you can wrap it up snugly for winter. This is one of my least favorite gardening jobs ever! Aim to not let any freezing conditions ever touch the plant, so that you don't get any potential rot.
I love Musa Basjoo, probably the cold hardiest banana that exists. Whilst I get freezes, going to 0掳F, in Zone 6, you may get down to -10掳, which will provide a somewhat tougher deal.
They typically do best if they're not cut down to the soil each wintertime, so you'll need to focus on winter protection. There are several methods that you can use to protect your plant. I'll start with an outline of the sort of protection that you may wish to create, as this will be the biggest challenge that you;ll get with this plant.
You can build a wooden frame around your plant, as a small house for it for the winter. You can then cover this frame with polythene, or some other covering. If it's breathable, then it really helps to prevent air stagnation, especially if there's allot of moisture around.
You you wrap the trunk with hessian sacking, gardener's fleece as well as infill with really dry Fall tree leaves too. These trap air, which works as a perfect insulator.
If the 'trunk' gets cut back by freezes, then you'll have also protected the roots, so you're likely to get sprouts off it, and these babies will grow quickly, once spring arrives.
OK, winter protection methodology over, Musa Basjoo loves tons of water and feeding. I always work allot of well rotted manure into the planting hole, providing nutrients for the future. You can supplement this by adding some around the plant, during the growth period.
You'll do well to add even more fertilizer as well, at least weekly. You can make manure 'teas' that will feed your plants well or the fertilizer of your choice.
In autumn, expect to take off the leaves from around the plant, so that you can wrap it up snugly for winter. This is one of my least favorite gardening jobs ever! Aim to not let any freezing conditions ever touch the plant, so that you don't get any potential rot.
Does anyone have any good advice on Newfoundlands?
In about three yeears I will be moving into a house and really want a BIG dog that loves water. I enjoy the beach and lake and want a companion that could keep up with the active lifestyles of my fiance and myself. We are prepared to properly train the dog and will be able to afford to care for the dog (food bill, vet costs for hereditary defects, etc.). I know that in order to get a dog from a good breeder that we may be on a waiting list for one and a half to two years. Any advice on what to start doing now? What else should I know about a giant breed. We've alreday done tons of research on this particular breed. Also, should we get a male or female (either would be spayed/neutered)?Does anyone have any good advice on Newfoundlands?
Wow, you seem very prepared - that's awesome!
Start looking at breeders. Tell them your plan and ask their advice. Ask about putting your name on the list - will they move you back if your name comes up before you get a house? If you're on the list, do you have certain obligations?
Gender of the dog doesn't matter too much - it's more of a preference that you will have personally. Get in touch with the nearest Newfoundland rescue, go to shows, etc. Being around these dogs will help you love them more. Research is all well and good, but spending time with dogs is much more fun!
Ask people you meet at shows and breeders if there's anything they wish they'd known before getting a Newfie.
It sounds like you and your fiance are building a fantastic life together - images of a couple running on the beach with a dog... *sigh* Good luck to you!Does anyone have any good advice on Newfoundlands?
i suggest that you train it to heel and come early because if you take him to the beach you are most likely to take the leash off. also, they are very strong you dont want your dog to walk you.
Wow, you seem very prepared - that's awesome!
Start looking at breeders. Tell them your plan and ask their advice. Ask about putting your name on the list - will they move you back if your name comes up before you get a house? If you're on the list, do you have certain obligations?
Gender of the dog doesn't matter too much - it's more of a preference that you will have personally. Get in touch with the nearest Newfoundland rescue, go to shows, etc. Being around these dogs will help you love them more. Research is all well and good, but spending time with dogs is much more fun!
Ask people you meet at shows and breeders if there's anything they wish they'd known before getting a Newfie.
It sounds like you and your fiance are building a fantastic life together - images of a couple running on the beach with a dog... *sigh* Good luck to you!Does anyone have any good advice on Newfoundlands?
i suggest that you train it to heel and come early because if you take him to the beach you are most likely to take the leash off. also, they are very strong you dont want your dog to walk you.
My sister can say whatever she wants to say to my mom, but when I say something mean she gets mad. Any advice?
My sister can say something to my mom and I can say the same thing and she gets angry with me but not her. I don't think it's the tone because we have similiar voices. I stopped talking a lot because of it because I am afraid if I say something she will take it the wrong way. By the way, My sister and I are both in our 20's.My sister can say whatever she wants to say to my mom, but when I say something mean she gets mad. Any advice?
Sometimes this is just something we perceive to be the case. It doesn't sound like a question from someone in their 20's. At your ages I would expect you to just ask Mom why it seems she favors one of your answers over the other.My sister can say whatever she wants to say to my mom, but when I say something mean she gets mad. Any advice?
me and my brother are both in our twenties and here is what i have noticed..... when we were younger I gave my mother more respect that my brother did, when he got to be the age children start mouthing off to their parents, he did. I think that if they never let you get away with it in the first place they figure why should they now? one child already disrespects her, she sure as hell isn't going to let another one do it! not only that but she may feel that your sister doesn't care! but knowing you do care, if she gets mad at you for doing it or says something to you about it you care enough to try to change it....?
maybe your mom just doesn't like you.
I know people say parents always love their children etc etc... but does that necessarily mean she likes you?
Do your sister and mother have a lot in common? do they spend more quality time together? that's probably why they're closer, than you and your mother, and thus, why she's less inclined to be offended by something your sister says....
When children are young, the nature of their relationship with their parents is clear, because their so dependent on their parents. But as you get older, your relationship with your parents becomes more like one of friendship, as you are no longer totally dependent on them as you once were..... so you can grow apart. Your mother probably doesn't give you the benefit of the doubt that she once would have, because you're an adult now, and not just he little girl.
I know my sister is a lot closer to our parents than I, and I am a lot more inclined to get accosted by my parents for any mildly snide comment. It's just the way things are. Just be very concise if you must spend time with your parents a lot. Make it so they can't misunderstand, or twist what you have said. And, if needs be, say less, as you have been. And if you still live at home, try to move out as soon as possible.
Maybe your sister is doing something your not for your mother! Tell your mother how much you love and appreciate her! I wouldn't recommend saying anything mean to your mother in the first place! If your sister says something negative to your mother. Defend your mother and earn her respect and love! If worst comes to worst talk to your mother in private without your sister around and tell her how you feel. You never want to hold a grudge with your mother or any family for that matter! Family is love!
if you think your mom will get mad at you if you say somthing maybe if you send her a letter saying how you feel whats going on and what she has done and maybe somthing to inprove her acts. i went through the same thing and i wrote my mom a letter and now i can talk to her like a normal person it dosent feel wierd or it dosent make me feel scared any more.
Dont say the things your sister says and you will be fine. Obviously your sister is the favorite. You could record what your sister says and the reaction from your mom and then do the same for you and then play it back to your mom and ask her why she does that to you
same thing used to happen to me and my sister and i asked my mom why and my mom said its because my sister is just a constant beyotch and im usually the nice one but when i say mean things they think i mean it more than when my sister says the same kind of stuff
it sounds like your mother has a shorter temper for you. and that can be a big boundary in family relationships. you need to tell her how you feel and try and improve the problem. and remember relationships will not work unless you both bend. good luck
maybe...dunno...you did somethin or said somethin in the recent past that hurt her and she's hurt, and mad at you. she doesn't want to show you but when she talks to you she is uncontrolling her rage toward you?
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maybe ur mom knowsthat ur sister cannot change and ur mom is trying to make u better than her. os that's wat my mom does. She says that My sister is already a gone case so she is trying to stop me from getting mannerless. :):)
This is a example... So if your sister ask for money she(your mom) is o.k with it but when you ask for money she get mad it that about right or something like this..? there one thing you can do ask grandma or grandpa...
get over it and quit your crying, your in your 20's so if you don't like it move out and be on your own, quit worrying about what your sister gets away with ect. grow up and move on with your life!!!!!!!
Hard to answer this one without knowing the family dynamics however there is usually historical residue in the subconscience that clouds peoples interaction with one another.
maybe its the way you say it.. do u say it in a rude manner?
if you dont, then talk to your mum.. let her know how you feel about the talking situation
Move out and don't talk to her ever again. Then when you get a lot of money, show off and make her feel jealous.
Ask the same question to your mom and if she gets mad or ignores you, tell your dad.
Before I read the details, it looked like you were much younger,
Since your in your 20's grow up and move on
you need to sit your mom down and talk to her about this.
I'm a mother of 3 and let me just say this: every mother does not love all of her children exactly the same. Each child is a completely different, unique human being. You love each child with the same intensity but you love them differently and you respond and react to them differently.
For whatever reason, your mother seems to take input from your sister better than she takes input from you but that has nothing to do with you and everything to do with your mom. Don't take it personally.
It is the way she's interpreting it coming out of your mouth and, yes, it's not fair that your sister can say whatever she wants and you're getting treated like a criminal when you have an opinion. Don't allow your mother's perception to devalue your ability to speak your mind.
Your mother is in her own world and she's hearing your words through her own filter. Know that this is about her, not you. Speak your mind when you want to speak your mind and don't expect her to take it any other way than the way she does and don't take it personally. Nothing other people do is because of you; it's because of them.
Don't change who you are to make someone else, even your mom, feel better. This is a great opportunity for you to learn how to speak your truth, even if nobody else likes it.
Here's the bottom line: Whenever you change your behavior to make someone else feel better, the message you're sending out to that person is this, ';What you think of me is more important than what I think of myself.'; Do you really want to send that message out to your mother, especially when you know her reaction has everything to do with her and nothing to do with you? Think about it...
Sometimes this is just something we perceive to be the case. It doesn't sound like a question from someone in their 20's. At your ages I would expect you to just ask Mom why it seems she favors one of your answers over the other.My sister can say whatever she wants to say to my mom, but when I say something mean she gets mad. Any advice?
me and my brother are both in our twenties and here is what i have noticed..... when we were younger I gave my mother more respect that my brother did, when he got to be the age children start mouthing off to their parents, he did. I think that if they never let you get away with it in the first place they figure why should they now? one child already disrespects her, she sure as hell isn't going to let another one do it! not only that but she may feel that your sister doesn't care! but knowing you do care, if she gets mad at you for doing it or says something to you about it you care enough to try to change it....?
maybe your mom just doesn't like you.
I know people say parents always love their children etc etc... but does that necessarily mean she likes you?
Do your sister and mother have a lot in common? do they spend more quality time together? that's probably why they're closer, than you and your mother, and thus, why she's less inclined to be offended by something your sister says....
When children are young, the nature of their relationship with their parents is clear, because their so dependent on their parents. But as you get older, your relationship with your parents becomes more like one of friendship, as you are no longer totally dependent on them as you once were..... so you can grow apart. Your mother probably doesn't give you the benefit of the doubt that she once would have, because you're an adult now, and not just he little girl.
I know my sister is a lot closer to our parents than I, and I am a lot more inclined to get accosted by my parents for any mildly snide comment. It's just the way things are. Just be very concise if you must spend time with your parents a lot. Make it so they can't misunderstand, or twist what you have said. And, if needs be, say less, as you have been. And if you still live at home, try to move out as soon as possible.
Maybe your sister is doing something your not for your mother! Tell your mother how much you love and appreciate her! I wouldn't recommend saying anything mean to your mother in the first place! If your sister says something negative to your mother. Defend your mother and earn her respect and love! If worst comes to worst talk to your mother in private without your sister around and tell her how you feel. You never want to hold a grudge with your mother or any family for that matter! Family is love!
if you think your mom will get mad at you if you say somthing maybe if you send her a letter saying how you feel whats going on and what she has done and maybe somthing to inprove her acts. i went through the same thing and i wrote my mom a letter and now i can talk to her like a normal person it dosent feel wierd or it dosent make me feel scared any more.
Dont say the things your sister says and you will be fine. Obviously your sister is the favorite. You could record what your sister says and the reaction from your mom and then do the same for you and then play it back to your mom and ask her why she does that to you
same thing used to happen to me and my sister and i asked my mom why and my mom said its because my sister is just a constant beyotch and im usually the nice one but when i say mean things they think i mean it more than when my sister says the same kind of stuff
it sounds like your mother has a shorter temper for you. and that can be a big boundary in family relationships. you need to tell her how you feel and try and improve the problem. and remember relationships will not work unless you both bend. good luck
maybe...dunno...you did somethin or said somethin in the recent past that hurt her and she's hurt, and mad at you. she doesn't want to show you but when she talks to you she is uncontrolling her rage toward you?
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maybe ur mom knowsthat ur sister cannot change and ur mom is trying to make u better than her. os that's wat my mom does. She says that My sister is already a gone case so she is trying to stop me from getting mannerless. :):)
This is a example... So if your sister ask for money she(your mom) is o.k with it but when you ask for money she get mad it that about right or something like this..? there one thing you can do ask grandma or grandpa...
get over it and quit your crying, your in your 20's so if you don't like it move out and be on your own, quit worrying about what your sister gets away with ect. grow up and move on with your life!!!!!!!
Hard to answer this one without knowing the family dynamics however there is usually historical residue in the subconscience that clouds peoples interaction with one another.
maybe its the way you say it.. do u say it in a rude manner?
if you dont, then talk to your mum.. let her know how you feel about the talking situation
Move out and don't talk to her ever again. Then when you get a lot of money, show off and make her feel jealous.
Ask the same question to your mom and if she gets mad or ignores you, tell your dad.
Before I read the details, it looked like you were much younger,
Since your in your 20's grow up and move on
you need to sit your mom down and talk to her about this.
I'm a mother of 3 and let me just say this: every mother does not love all of her children exactly the same. Each child is a completely different, unique human being. You love each child with the same intensity but you love them differently and you respond and react to them differently.
For whatever reason, your mother seems to take input from your sister better than she takes input from you but that has nothing to do with you and everything to do with your mom. Don't take it personally.
It is the way she's interpreting it coming out of your mouth and, yes, it's not fair that your sister can say whatever she wants and you're getting treated like a criminal when you have an opinion. Don't allow your mother's perception to devalue your ability to speak your mind.
Your mother is in her own world and she's hearing your words through her own filter. Know that this is about her, not you. Speak your mind when you want to speak your mind and don't expect her to take it any other way than the way she does and don't take it personally. Nothing other people do is because of you; it's because of them.
Don't change who you are to make someone else, even your mom, feel better. This is a great opportunity for you to learn how to speak your truth, even if nobody else likes it.
Here's the bottom line: Whenever you change your behavior to make someone else feel better, the message you're sending out to that person is this, ';What you think of me is more important than what I think of myself.'; Do you really want to send that message out to your mother, especially when you know her reaction has everything to do with her and nothing to do with you? Think about it...
Does anyone have any good advice on Newfoundlands?
In about three yeears I will be moving into a house and really want a BIG dog that loves water. I enjoy the beach and lake and want a companion that could keep up with the active lifestyles of my fiance and myself. We are prepared to properly train the dog and will be able to afford to care for the dog (food bill, vet costs for hereditary defects, etc.). I know that in order to get a dog from a good breeder that we may be on a waiting list for one and a half to two years. Any advice on what to start doing now? What else should I know about a giant breed. We've alreday done tons of research on this particular breed. Also, should we get a male or female (either would be spayed/neutered)?Does anyone have any good advice on Newfoundlands?
Wow, you seem very prepared - that's awesome!
Start looking at breeders. Tell them your plan and ask their advice. Ask about putting your name on the list - will they move you back if your name comes up before you get a house? If you're on the list, do you have certain obligations?
Gender of the dog doesn't matter too much - it's more of a preference that you will have personally. Get in touch with the nearest Newfoundland rescue, go to shows, etc. Being around these dogs will help you love them more. Research is all well and good, but spending time with dogs is much more fun!
Ask people you meet at shows and breeders if there's anything they wish they'd known before getting a Newfie.
It sounds like you and your fiance are building a fantastic life together - images of a couple running on the beach with a dog... *sigh* Good luck to you!Does anyone have any good advice on Newfoundlands?
i suggest that you train it to heel and come early because if you take him to the beach you are most likely to take the leash off. also, they are very strong you dont want your dog to walk you.
Wow, you seem very prepared - that's awesome!
Start looking at breeders. Tell them your plan and ask their advice. Ask about putting your name on the list - will they move you back if your name comes up before you get a house? If you're on the list, do you have certain obligations?
Gender of the dog doesn't matter too much - it's more of a preference that you will have personally. Get in touch with the nearest Newfoundland rescue, go to shows, etc. Being around these dogs will help you love them more. Research is all well and good, but spending time with dogs is much more fun!
Ask people you meet at shows and breeders if there's anything they wish they'd known before getting a Newfie.
It sounds like you and your fiance are building a fantastic life together - images of a couple running on the beach with a dog... *sigh* Good luck to you!Does anyone have any good advice on Newfoundlands?
i suggest that you train it to heel and come early because if you take him to the beach you are most likely to take the leash off. also, they are very strong you dont want your dog to walk you.
Can a man give me advice on what electrical shaver to buy?
I want to know which one is the best and good quality?
not more than a $100.Can a man give me advice on what electrical shaver to buy?
Buy a philips dry shaver (travel pack).
Easier to clean and easier to maintain. Built for traveling -- therefore small in size...though it'll take 1 minute longer to shave as compared to a expensive shaver.Can a man give me advice on what electrical shaver to buy?
I have a Braun that works very well. It's smoother and quieter than some. It is in the mentioned price range.
r u talking bout Electric Saver. if u got a good one the pls tell me too.
not more than a $100.Can a man give me advice on what electrical shaver to buy?
Buy a philips dry shaver (travel pack).
Easier to clean and easier to maintain. Built for traveling -- therefore small in size...though it'll take 1 minute longer to shave as compared to a expensive shaver.Can a man give me advice on what electrical shaver to buy?
I have a Braun that works very well. It's smoother and quieter than some. It is in the mentioned price range.
r u talking bout Electric Saver. if u got a good one the pls tell me too.
What is the absolute best advice you have ever received on stock investing??!?
Hey what is the absolute best advice you have ever received on investing, Stocks.... :) thanksWhat is the absolute best advice you have ever received on stock investing??!?
Back in grade school I was taught that before you do any investing/trading learn what to do, how to do it, and when and where to do it.
In high school the same advisor told me after you think you know what you are doing, prepare a proper written plan for trading/investing along with a sound money management program and never deviate from the plan and program and nevr, never trade/invest on emotions.
You never go into any trade unless you know when and where you are going to get out.
Never average down, take a loss and walk away.What is the absolute best advice you have ever received on stock investing??!?
';Don't be average [when it comes to investing].'; -- Robert Kiyosaki, attributed to ';rich dad';
In other words, think about what the ';average'; investor would do, then try NOT to do that.
';Diversification is for the ignorant.'; -- Warren Buffet, legendary investor of Berkshire Hathaway
Diversification will DILUTE your earnings as well as your risks. Only people who don't study their stocks diversify.
Develope a trading plan before you start . Test it out by paper trading first.
Buy Low , Sell High! Follow that rule, and you will never lose any money.
Never let a gain turn into a loss.....
dont' burn your hard earned money on something you dont' understand.
learn to manage risk
be a trader or an investor, you cannot be both.
learn to STOP reading all the financial news.
learn to apply mind
a TRADER makes money, small fish rares makes any, they just get eaten by the crocodiles
read the forbes. when they say this is the stock to buy, start to sell it, that usually means fools are rushing in.
money is made when you CHOOSE to buy, and a loss is made when you HAVE to sell.
you havent' made a profit or a loss until you have bought and SOLD. both. ( money is in pocket)
http://shares.1441.org
that's are the best advices anyone can ever give you.
Know why you buy. If the reason you bought is no longer valid, sell.
www.BradleyElectricInc.com
Back in grade school I was taught that before you do any investing/trading learn what to do, how to do it, and when and where to do it.
In high school the same advisor told me after you think you know what you are doing, prepare a proper written plan for trading/investing along with a sound money management program and never deviate from the plan and program and nevr, never trade/invest on emotions.
You never go into any trade unless you know when and where you are going to get out.
Never average down, take a loss and walk away.What is the absolute best advice you have ever received on stock investing??!?
';Don't be average [when it comes to investing].'; -- Robert Kiyosaki, attributed to ';rich dad';
In other words, think about what the ';average'; investor would do, then try NOT to do that.
';Diversification is for the ignorant.'; -- Warren Buffet, legendary investor of Berkshire Hathaway
Diversification will DILUTE your earnings as well as your risks. Only people who don't study their stocks diversify.
Develope a trading plan before you start . Test it out by paper trading first.
Buy Low , Sell High! Follow that rule, and you will never lose any money.
Never let a gain turn into a loss.....
dont' burn your hard earned money on something you dont' understand.
learn to manage risk
be a trader or an investor, you cannot be both.
learn to STOP reading all the financial news.
learn to apply mind
a TRADER makes money, small fish rares makes any, they just get eaten by the crocodiles
read the forbes. when they say this is the stock to buy, start to sell it, that usually means fools are rushing in.
money is made when you CHOOSE to buy, and a loss is made when you HAVE to sell.
you havent' made a profit or a loss until you have bought and SOLD. both. ( money is in pocket)
http://shares.1441.org
that's are the best advices anyone can ever give you.
Know why you buy. If the reason you bought is no longer valid, sell.
www.BradleyElectricInc.com
I want to buy a gasoline powered van, take out the engine and replace it with a diesel engine. Can I? Advice?
I want to buy an old vw bus from the 60s or so and tour the country. I want to switch the engine to a diesel that way i could convert it to run on biodiesel. I would convert it straight from gasoline to biodiesel, but this is not possible. Biodiesel costs a lot less and is good for the environment. Does anybody have any advice?I want to buy a gasoline powered van, take out the engine and replace it with a diesel engine. Can I? Advice?
It is really more logical to just find a van that is a diesel,,because you can really get in to some money doing this job,,it takes a lot of time,,a whole lot of patience,,a good tool set,,1 or 2 good helper,s,,and a good part,s supply,,probably by the tome you get done you will wish you had just went out and bought one that was a diesel,,hope this help,s.I want to buy a gasoline powered van, take out the engine and replace it with a diesel engine. Can I? Advice?
you can get a VW deasiel van from the same era, there are lots of cheap ones that are newer too. bio deasel is easy you can filter mc donalds grease they will pay you to take it filter it well though you can go 40 % deasel 60 % trans fats and run it streaght. cleans the engine too. you can take the ratio even up too 1-100 but then you need a better iggnitiant in the fuel. the great thing about pre fuel ingection is a carborator is easier to alter the gas air mixture being sucked into the engine. this will make the fuel burn more cleaner or complete
Since they never made a 60's diesel bus, its all going to be custom, they did make audi, vw diesels in the eighty's, think id try to adapt but those got 50mpg because of weight and other factors and u want something heavier,also they were front engined motors and you want rear, those old diesels neededd alot but only got u 10 mpg more than something heavier, to me biodiesel, isnt the way to go, your using enuff food, to feed a starving country to feed your car, soundslike to me, we have to go solar/ nueclear/ or hydrogen, but to put nueclear/ hydrogen in the publics hands is asking for trouble
Biodiesel actually doesn't cost a lot less. It costs less if you cook it yourself, but you're not going to be doing that at every hotel you stop at.
i don't think a regular diesel engine will bolt up to the transaxle too much time and technology has transpired since the buses came out....i had a VW superbeetle once..read the whole ';Compl3ate idiots guide to VW'; from John Muir.
damn hippies...if you dont already have a basic idea as to how to go about this, probably not a good idea. stop before you hurt yourself.
Officer Barbrady: ';Eric, you can't keep 65 people locked up in your basement.';
Cartman: ';They arent people, the're hippies.';
Buy a diesel powered van. it's cheaper than going thru all the mechanical stuff.
It will be much easier on your pocketbook to just go ahead and buy a diesel van. Too much stuff to have to swap-out.
Do you have any mechanical experience/fabrication experience/deep pockets? Any 2 and you could do it, slowly if you have 3 it will go fast. If not, you will have to learn and earn! I am doing a conversion right now on a 60s Travelall here:
http://www.pirate4x4.com/forum/showthrea鈥?/a>
I had all 3, at least I thought I had enough dough, but ran out when I realized I needed to change my front axle or have the exhaust hang down below the frame rails, I am close, but its not cigar time yet.
It is a worthy and kewl project, but on a scale from easy to hard(10 hardest) it is a 8. You will have accomplished alot and should be proud of your HUGE accomplishment!
Good Luck
wanderer
It is really more logical to just find a van that is a diesel,,because you can really get in to some money doing this job,,it takes a lot of time,,a whole lot of patience,,a good tool set,,1 or 2 good helper,s,,and a good part,s supply,,probably by the tome you get done you will wish you had just went out and bought one that was a diesel,,hope this help,s.I want to buy a gasoline powered van, take out the engine and replace it with a diesel engine. Can I? Advice?
you can get a VW deasiel van from the same era, there are lots of cheap ones that are newer too. bio deasel is easy you can filter mc donalds grease they will pay you to take it filter it well though you can go 40 % deasel 60 % trans fats and run it streaght. cleans the engine too. you can take the ratio even up too 1-100 but then you need a better iggnitiant in the fuel. the great thing about pre fuel ingection is a carborator is easier to alter the gas air mixture being sucked into the engine. this will make the fuel burn more cleaner or complete
Since they never made a 60's diesel bus, its all going to be custom, they did make audi, vw diesels in the eighty's, think id try to adapt but those got 50mpg because of weight and other factors and u want something heavier,also they were front engined motors and you want rear, those old diesels neededd alot but only got u 10 mpg more than something heavier, to me biodiesel, isnt the way to go, your using enuff food, to feed a starving country to feed your car, soundslike to me, we have to go solar/ nueclear/ or hydrogen, but to put nueclear/ hydrogen in the publics hands is asking for trouble
Biodiesel actually doesn't cost a lot less. It costs less if you cook it yourself, but you're not going to be doing that at every hotel you stop at.
i don't think a regular diesel engine will bolt up to the transaxle too much time and technology has transpired since the buses came out....i had a VW superbeetle once..read the whole ';Compl3ate idiots guide to VW'; from John Muir.
damn hippies...if you dont already have a basic idea as to how to go about this, probably not a good idea. stop before you hurt yourself.
Officer Barbrady: ';Eric, you can't keep 65 people locked up in your basement.';
Cartman: ';They arent people, the're hippies.';
Buy a diesel powered van. it's cheaper than going thru all the mechanical stuff.
It will be much easier on your pocketbook to just go ahead and buy a diesel van. Too much stuff to have to swap-out.
Do you have any mechanical experience/fabrication experience/deep pockets? Any 2 and you could do it, slowly if you have 3 it will go fast. If not, you will have to learn and earn! I am doing a conversion right now on a 60s Travelall here:
http://www.pirate4x4.com/forum/showthrea鈥?/a>
I had all 3, at least I thought I had enough dough, but ran out when I realized I needed to change my front axle or have the exhaust hang down below the frame rails, I am close, but its not cigar time yet.
It is a worthy and kewl project, but on a scale from easy to hard(10 hardest) it is a 8. You will have accomplished alot and should be proud of your HUGE accomplishment!
Good Luck
wanderer
Tramadol Does anybody have any advice or can you relate ?
I had a really bad back and was prescribed tramadol . Since taking tramadol I have become team leader at work and am so confident without them I lose all my confidence and go red all the time I feel I need to take them for ever . Will they harm me ?Tramadol Does anybody have any advice or can you relate ?
You are going to get addicted to them (you may be already - they are mild opiates the same class of drug as morphine and heroin). You need to cut them out and deal with your anxiety and low confidence without resorting to drugs.Tramadol Does anybody have any advice or can you relate ?
Yes they will harm you and that is addiction.
Your an addict you need to be weaned off them.
Personally I find Tramadol a real crap drug to use no more affective than 500mg Paracetamol (Tylenol) to me.
Then again not many pain killers have worked for me yet still going thru them I suffer Rheumatoid Arthritis. Im now on Dihydrocodeine 90mg Continus. Prescribed 2 per day but I take 3 per day and smoke cannabis too. Without cannabis my pain killer taking would be huge.
When i was in hospital,i was given tramadol. They told me they work differently with other people but most of the time, people either feel relaxed,feel normal or feel really sick with them. Maybe if your feeling too confident i'd ease off them a little bit, so you wont get addicted. Confidence is all in your mind and you can acheive this without pills :)
tramadol does not get you high
no i dont think they will harm you...when i took them i felt so relaxed....
You are going to get addicted to them (you may be already - they are mild opiates the same class of drug as morphine and heroin). You need to cut them out and deal with your anxiety and low confidence without resorting to drugs.Tramadol Does anybody have any advice or can you relate ?
Yes they will harm you and that is addiction.
Your an addict you need to be weaned off them.
Personally I find Tramadol a real crap drug to use no more affective than 500mg Paracetamol (Tylenol) to me.
Then again not many pain killers have worked for me yet still going thru them I suffer Rheumatoid Arthritis. Im now on Dihydrocodeine 90mg Continus. Prescribed 2 per day but I take 3 per day and smoke cannabis too. Without cannabis my pain killer taking would be huge.
When i was in hospital,i was given tramadol. They told me they work differently with other people but most of the time, people either feel relaxed,feel normal or feel really sick with them. Maybe if your feeling too confident i'd ease off them a little bit, so you wont get addicted. Confidence is all in your mind and you can acheive this without pills :)
tramadol does not get you high
no i dont think they will harm you...when i took them i felt so relaxed....
Could anyone give me some advice on a Jackson Chameleon?
I would just like to know some information from people about Jacskon Chameleons. Like are you supposed to put that bark in the bottom. The pet store said yes, but i read you shouldn't. Thanks for any info that you may have about him. Also any good web sites. Could anyone give me some advice on a Jackson Chameleon?
I love chameleons but I'm useless at keeping them! A couple of seemingly decent websites are
http://www.geocities.com/chamjacksonii/
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I love chameleons but I'm useless at keeping them! A couple of seemingly decent websites are
http://www.geocities.com/chamjacksonii/
%26amp;
http://animal-world.com/encyclo/reptiles鈥?/a>
Can someone give me some advice for my cousin?
My cousin is twelve, and when she was 9, she played a game with our my other female cousin where they pretended to make out in stuff. She is like urging to have sex now (12 years old). She really wants to have it and she's going to me for advice.
I don't know waht to say to her. I know that she should not have sex and I want to do anything and everything to stop her from it. Because she could end up like me, HIV infected.
What do I tell her?
How do I tell her parents?Can someone give me some advice for my cousin?
Your cousin is extremely young and should not even be having ';play sex';. If she has play sex again and gets naked or did it naked, she is is a bisexual! Just tell her that.
Just tell her the truth, don't have sex, it's bad at a young age like that.
You tell her not to do it and tell her parents. Just tell them straight forward that their daughter is being a bad girl. If they approve of the play sex, that's terrible and you should call the police if they approve of her having sex and approve of her play sex. You should also tell your cousin and your cousin's parents.
This is serious stuff girlie. Take care!Can someone give me some advice for my cousin?
just tell her what happened to you and that it really is not worth it until you get older. if she is going to do it br=ing her to a family planning clinic and get her on birth control now, even though she hasn't started her period. that would be the way also to show her that condoms are easy dto get for free so she won't have and excuse like i didn't get any condoms
good luck if she does start tell her parents
if she does not listen to your warnings tell her that the best thing you could do is suggest she go to the health department. if she refuses to talk to anyone there, they have pamphlets, and so should your school nurse's office. If you believe that she is in danger and that it is an absolute necessity for her parents to know and you cant find a way to tell them yourself, confide in your parents. they will make sure that the information is pushed along.
Tell her your story and tell her that real sex is nothing like what she did with your cousin, it is real and it is scarey.... You really have to tell her parents, or have somebody else tell them. I started having sex too early and it really messed me up as an adult. If all else fails, educate her in safe sex.
I don't know waht to say to her. I know that she should not have sex and I want to do anything and everything to stop her from it. Because she could end up like me, HIV infected.
What do I tell her?
How do I tell her parents?Can someone give me some advice for my cousin?
Your cousin is extremely young and should not even be having ';play sex';. If she has play sex again and gets naked or did it naked, she is is a bisexual! Just tell her that.
Just tell her the truth, don't have sex, it's bad at a young age like that.
You tell her not to do it and tell her parents. Just tell them straight forward that their daughter is being a bad girl. If they approve of the play sex, that's terrible and you should call the police if they approve of her having sex and approve of her play sex. You should also tell your cousin and your cousin's parents.
This is serious stuff girlie. Take care!Can someone give me some advice for my cousin?
just tell her what happened to you and that it really is not worth it until you get older. if she is going to do it br=ing her to a family planning clinic and get her on birth control now, even though she hasn't started her period. that would be the way also to show her that condoms are easy dto get for free so she won't have and excuse like i didn't get any condoms
good luck if she does start tell her parents
if she does not listen to your warnings tell her that the best thing you could do is suggest she go to the health department. if she refuses to talk to anyone there, they have pamphlets, and so should your school nurse's office. If you believe that she is in danger and that it is an absolute necessity for her parents to know and you cant find a way to tell them yourself, confide in your parents. they will make sure that the information is pushed along.
Tell her your story and tell her that real sex is nothing like what she did with your cousin, it is real and it is scarey.... You really have to tell her parents, or have somebody else tell them. I started having sex too early and it really messed me up as an adult. If all else fails, educate her in safe sex.
Is there a blog for advice or a website for support?
I am in need of some really good advice. I need some venting and someone to help me look outside my box called life. I have had some major life changes and some really hard changes. I am hanging in there but need someone or people for some support. I really dont need any jokers or anyone that is going to crack on my issues.
If you know of a site or a mesage board that is free with good honest people then please share this with me.
Thanks for your time!!Is there a blog for advice or a website for support?
that's what we are / even blogs/ and websites /may be negative//it/ would be/ hard /to put /your life /out /in public /due/ to so /many weirdos/please/ be careful/talk to your church/ counselor if you are in school/see a Dr/just make sure /you have/ trust and confidence in them/good luckIs there a blog for advice or a website for support?
You have friends here.
I've gone through a variety of struggles, and am willing to help you through yours, leave me a note here and I'll get back to you or add me to your list.
I'm a good listiener, and wont just give you any advice unless you ask for it.
I care about you, even though you don't know me. God does know you and He cares as well. Pray about things then get back to me, and I'll be praying for you to.
This link below is to my own personal group. Open to everyone. I also have a few other Christian and other kinds. Take a look and let me know. You are welcome to join any of them you see , or ask me about the others.
Dude there are going to be morons wherever you go. You will find genuine people in this forum but you will also find people who would be your friend just so they can expose your pains in order to conceal their own. You take the good with the bad.
The one thing I have found useful about this forum is that it is anonymous, so you can explore some emotions, buried ones and try to work that out of your system. I think some emotions should stay buried, though ~ our minds are pretty good at trying to protect us from abhorrent reality by numbing our senses... and these innate natural mechanisms are worthy allies.
Ask your questions and give your answers and see how you go. Ignore the trolls.
yes, there are full of them in yahoo groups, look for a group that is moderated so it will have no spam or idiots posting hate posts!
http://groups.yahoo.com/
good luck
If you know of a site or a mesage board that is free with good honest people then please share this with me.
Thanks for your time!!Is there a blog for advice or a website for support?
that's what we are / even blogs/ and websites /may be negative//it/ would be/ hard /to put /your life /out /in public /due/ to so /many weirdos/please/ be careful/talk to your church/ counselor if you are in school/see a Dr/just make sure /you have/ trust and confidence in them/good luckIs there a blog for advice or a website for support?
You have friends here.
I've gone through a variety of struggles, and am willing to help you through yours, leave me a note here and I'll get back to you or add me to your list.
I'm a good listiener, and wont just give you any advice unless you ask for it.
I care about you, even though you don't know me. God does know you and He cares as well. Pray about things then get back to me, and I'll be praying for you to.
This link below is to my own personal group. Open to everyone. I also have a few other Christian and other kinds. Take a look and let me know. You are welcome to join any of them you see , or ask me about the others.
Dude there are going to be morons wherever you go. You will find genuine people in this forum but you will also find people who would be your friend just so they can expose your pains in order to conceal their own. You take the good with the bad.
The one thing I have found useful about this forum is that it is anonymous, so you can explore some emotions, buried ones and try to work that out of your system. I think some emotions should stay buried, though ~ our minds are pretty good at trying to protect us from abhorrent reality by numbing our senses... and these innate natural mechanisms are worthy allies.
Ask your questions and give your answers and see how you go. Ignore the trolls.
yes, there are full of them in yahoo groups, look for a group that is moderated so it will have no spam or idiots posting hate posts!
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good luck
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Never jaywalk in front of a rental car.What is some particularly sage advice you've received?
It only hurts a little at first. That works for almost everything. Not really advice, though.
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It only hurts a little at first. That works for almost everything. Not really advice, though.
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Hi guys, i need advice i'm 4 months away from graduating, i want to become a veterinarian where should i start?
Are you 4 months away from graduating high school? I hope so, because if you're 4 months away from graduating college, then you have a problem
Assuming you're going to college this fall you need to check out the recommendations for the vet school(s) you want to go to. You can find those schools and their requirements here:
http://www.aavmc.org
While there are only 28 vet schools in the country, those pre-vet courses can be taken almost anywhere.
The thing that you need to do now, is to try to start working for a veterinarian if you haven't already. Experience is extremely important to vet schools and it's hard to get that experience during college if you're going to a school with a large pre-vet population so try getting some experience this summer.Hi guys, i need advice i'm 4 months away from graduating, i want to become a veterinarian where should i start?
study animal bio or premed for your bachelor of science and look around for schools that offer veterinary studies for after u finished ur studies. also helpful to volunteer at a clinic or somethingHi guys, i need advice i'm 4 months away from graduating, i want to become a veterinarian where should i start?
i think you should first observe the animals around you.
Assuming you're going to college this fall you need to check out the recommendations for the vet school(s) you want to go to. You can find those schools and their requirements here:
http://www.aavmc.org
While there are only 28 vet schools in the country, those pre-vet courses can be taken almost anywhere.
The thing that you need to do now, is to try to start working for a veterinarian if you haven't already. Experience is extremely important to vet schools and it's hard to get that experience during college if you're going to a school with a large pre-vet population so try getting some experience this summer.Hi guys, i need advice i'm 4 months away from graduating, i want to become a veterinarian where should i start?
study animal bio or premed for your bachelor of science and look around for schools that offer veterinary studies for after u finished ur studies. also helpful to volunteer at a clinic or somethingHi guys, i need advice i'm 4 months away from graduating, i want to become a veterinarian where should i start?
i think you should first observe the animals around you.
Has anyone have any good advice about chemically straightning hair ?
Well i normally relax my hair But i now hav'nt had it done for 7 months
I would be getting it done in 6 days but i dont know if i should get it done or not
--Does it look good with straightened hair
--Does it seriously damage my hair
--What is an alternative
--All other advice is welcome
Thanks so muchHas anyone have any good advice about chemically straightning hair ?
Relaxers do damage the hair because they alter your hair's natural state. So if you do it, it will be important for you to follow up with conditioning treatments, protein treatments and hot oils treatments (not all at the same time though. Alternate.)
Your alternative is to go natural, Since you haven't have a relaxer in 7 months, you are basically there. if you decide to go natural, you'll have to cut off your straight ends (if you have any.) If you don't they will break off.
I am natural and I love it. I don't have to worry about my hair when it rains or getting a touch-up every 6 weeks. I don't have to spend all day in the beauty salon and I don't have to spend much time styling it at home. I just wake up and go. It did take me some time to get the right routine and to find the right products.
I can't really tell you what you should do. That's a personal decision. But www.nappturality.com is great site and can answer all your questions about going and staying natural. until then, you can get your hair braided, cornrowed, flat twisted, etc. until you decide what you want to do.
Hope this helps.Has anyone have any good advice about chemically straightning hair ?
of course it damages hair! you need to condition it everyweek to help it retain moisture. get some ghd's straightners and use them instead.
I would be getting it done in 6 days but i dont know if i should get it done or not
--Does it look good with straightened hair
--Does it seriously damage my hair
--What is an alternative
--All other advice is welcome
Thanks so muchHas anyone have any good advice about chemically straightning hair ?
Relaxers do damage the hair because they alter your hair's natural state. So if you do it, it will be important for you to follow up with conditioning treatments, protein treatments and hot oils treatments (not all at the same time though. Alternate.)
Your alternative is to go natural, Since you haven't have a relaxer in 7 months, you are basically there. if you decide to go natural, you'll have to cut off your straight ends (if you have any.) If you don't they will break off.
I am natural and I love it. I don't have to worry about my hair when it rains or getting a touch-up every 6 weeks. I don't have to spend all day in the beauty salon and I don't have to spend much time styling it at home. I just wake up and go. It did take me some time to get the right routine and to find the right products.
I can't really tell you what you should do. That's a personal decision. But www.nappturality.com is great site and can answer all your questions about going and staying natural. until then, you can get your hair braided, cornrowed, flat twisted, etc. until you decide what you want to do.
Hope this helps.Has anyone have any good advice about chemically straightning hair ?
of course it damages hair! you need to condition it everyweek to help it retain moisture. get some ghd's straightners and use them instead.
How can i become an advice columnist in the newspaper?
okay so i want to give advice to people in the newspaper, but i am having a hard time trying to do it. i already looked on google and typed in anything and everything i could possibly think of. do you think you could help me?How can i become an advice columnist in the newspaper?
Are you a student? You could ask your school newspaper if they are interested in an advice column.
Other than that, you would need to build up some samples of your column and preferably a following and then try to ';sell'; yourself to area newspapers. The big, syndicated advice columns started out as a column in a single paper and were then picked up by a syndicate.
I would suggest starting a blog where you give advice to get some experience and build up a following.How can i become an advice columnist in the newspaper?
as far as i know you need to market yourself to newspapers, like maybe write on their feedback sections, a page for their readers to express their feedbacks regarding their articles. or if you're really serious about a career in journalism, market yourself more by joining wrtiting contests, attend seminars and the most effective of all, have a college degree in journalism or communication arts.
It will be hard to just go out and look for those kind of job. Those columnists are usually already someone famous(or have good credentials) when they get job as columnist. Or they've been in newspaper before, they may be authors, well known writer...etc.
The thing is it is unlikely you will get into that position unless you had some success as author or had some other media/press experiences.
If you like to write you' probably have better shot at publishing a book than becoming columnist first. At least that's my opinion.
Or try starting good blog and hope it will become popular.
You can also check out Writers Market for list of magazines, publishers, newspapers...etc. Places to get your things published.
Few papers hire advice columnists. There are a couple of syndicated ones who are picked up in a variety of papers (along the lines of Ann Landers). In fact, I knew someone who was married to one of them.
I'd broaden your standards a little bit, and see what happens.
Just assure them you're a liberal without values (even if it's not true) and you'll probably get hired at most newspapers for most positions.
Then, after you get hired you can help people by giving them genuine, sensible advice (unlike that which a liberal would give).
Of course, the liberal paper then wouldn't like you, but it's questionable whether they'd fire you.
Besides knowledge of (proper) English and writing samples, you'll probably need to pursue a degree in psychology (specializing in general, family, etc.)... You have to have proven ';qualifications'; to actually dispense advice to people and opine on pertinent and sensitive topics... Hope this helps,
TCMAnail polish
Are you a student? You could ask your school newspaper if they are interested in an advice column.
Other than that, you would need to build up some samples of your column and preferably a following and then try to ';sell'; yourself to area newspapers. The big, syndicated advice columns started out as a column in a single paper and were then picked up by a syndicate.
I would suggest starting a blog where you give advice to get some experience and build up a following.How can i become an advice columnist in the newspaper?
as far as i know you need to market yourself to newspapers, like maybe write on their feedback sections, a page for their readers to express their feedbacks regarding their articles. or if you're really serious about a career in journalism, market yourself more by joining wrtiting contests, attend seminars and the most effective of all, have a college degree in journalism or communication arts.
It will be hard to just go out and look for those kind of job. Those columnists are usually already someone famous(or have good credentials) when they get job as columnist. Or they've been in newspaper before, they may be authors, well known writer...etc.
The thing is it is unlikely you will get into that position unless you had some success as author or had some other media/press experiences.
If you like to write you' probably have better shot at publishing a book than becoming columnist first. At least that's my opinion.
Or try starting good blog and hope it will become popular.
You can also check out Writers Market for list of magazines, publishers, newspapers...etc. Places to get your things published.
Few papers hire advice columnists. There are a couple of syndicated ones who are picked up in a variety of papers (along the lines of Ann Landers). In fact, I knew someone who was married to one of them.
I'd broaden your standards a little bit, and see what happens.
Just assure them you're a liberal without values (even if it's not true) and you'll probably get hired at most newspapers for most positions.
Then, after you get hired you can help people by giving them genuine, sensible advice (unlike that which a liberal would give).
Of course, the liberal paper then wouldn't like you, but it's questionable whether they'd fire you.
Besides knowledge of (proper) English and writing samples, you'll probably need to pursue a degree in psychology (specializing in general, family, etc.)... You have to have proven ';qualifications'; to actually dispense advice to people and opine on pertinent and sensitive topics... Hope this helps,
TCMA
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